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*Warning- long post. I refuse to get into a debate. If you think differently, it's fine- you are entitled to your opinion as I am mine, just don't try to change my mind.*

I will not support candy-grubbing laziness by participating in a trunk-or-treat. Here's why...

I remember growing up, my parents getting dressed up too, and going door to door to EARN my candy. My feet were killing me by the end of the night, but there was an overwhelming sense of accomplishment when I arrived home at the end of the night, kicked off my shoes, and dumped my plastic pumpkin pail out on the living room floor.

I learned a few things from Halloween as I grew up:



1. Things aren't always what they seem- we went out after dark, and while there were ghouls, witches, and monsters everywhere, it taught me that what you think is real and what actually is, are two different things. I learned the dark is nothing to fear. Sometimes the best things happen in the dark of night. (Great ideas, sleep, a first kiss)

2. I learned the value of hard work. My neighbors helped me learn that you can't visit the same house twice. The more ground you cover, the more you earn. This holds true in adulthood too. The more connections you have, and the harder you strive to make new connections, the greater the return.

3. We learned that safety is important- we were not taught to be paranoid, but were taught what to watch out for. As we got older and our parents let us go out alone, we always used the buddy system. We carried flashlights so we didn't trip, and we attached reflectors to our clothing so cars could see us. We looked both ways before crossing the street, and we always made it home safely.

4. We learned what real dangers are, and aren't- we never found a razor blade in our candy, nor was anyone handing out free drugs. (Do you really think someone that had drugs would willingly give them away for free? If so, you're a special kind of stupid!). I do remember one year there was a recall on Smarties candies, because of an accident at their plant, that caused glass shards to make it into some candies. This was covered in national news and the recall was issued by the candy maker themselves. Our neighbors never tampered with the candy.

5. Play by the rules- many of my neighbors had a "no costume, no candy" policy. If you can't afford a $75+ costume, you can make one. There's millions of options out there. But whatever you do, If you are going out, you must play by the rules and wear a costume.



Trick or treating teaches these lessons. Real life in adulthood is like Halloween- we all wear masks, hard work is the most rewarding way to get ahead, don't fall prey to mass hysteria, be safe when it is prudent, and play by the rules.

Trunk or treats teach none of these lessons. It teaches kids to be lazy, and collect as much candy in as little time as possible with as little work as possible. I have been to some that give candy to kids who aren't in costume! It is akin to living off the government for long periods of time, just to collect the check, or food stamps. Don't get me wrong-those are needed programs, but not meant to be a way of life, just as trunk or treating is not meant to be the way of Halloween. This is why I refuse to participate in any trunk or treat events. It is also why those courageous enough to adhere to the traditions of the holiday will be handsomely rewarded when the come to my house.

As my daughter grows, I will gladly dress up and walk with her until she is old enough to go with her friends. I will not forget the lessons I learned, and will be happy to continue the true traditions of Halloween, that is, if anybody even keeps their porch lights on anymore...
 

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Lol! Aren't we all scared by the political landscape lately?
 

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I am not a fan of trunk or treat either, but for none of the reasons you listed! I dislike the over-the-top religious folks doing it so their kids can have candy, all while they spout off about Halloween being the "devil's holiday" that will send you straight to hell... But you know what? I don't let them ruin my day, they can have their beliefs, as I will have mine. They can play it safe, while I hang a "dead body" from the eaves of my house as Halloween decor. Everyone is different, to each their own!
 

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Never lived anywhere that "Trunk or Treat" was an option...
But I'd have to say I'd leave it to the kids. Ya wanna cheapen the experience for a bunch of lousy candy, go right ahead. Ya wanna combine the two, Trunk or Treat, THEN door to door, I'm down with that. But my particular kids, I believe, would choose the traditional route.
 

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My town has thrown a HUGE trunk or treat party for the past 3 years now and it grows more and more. With all the games,movies,freebies they offer I would go to it instead of TOTing too. Heck I will probably just go to see all the "halloween" in one place instead of waiting for the TOTers to dwindle at my door each year :(
I DO agree with much of the original poster but unfortunately things change.
 

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Some of what I have heard regarding Trunk or Treating is for the safety of the kids. What confuses me is why not use that energy to promote a safe Halloween experience in the neighborhood? Walk you kids door to door. Get a few neighbors together and everyone keep an eye out for the little ones. Light a fire pit, give out some candy, scare a few TOTs and make it a memorable night for everyone!

As far as the religious aspect, if you are still giving your kids treats on Halloween but just not calling it Halloween.....you ain't foolin anyone, especially the big guy/gal upstairs.
 

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They tried to start one here this year. I listened yo them, and when they were done I said have fun! I'll be giving candy at my house where I can curl up on the couch or go outside and wander around if I want.

There is no room here for that anyway. Where are the cars going to park

So after my input, since I am the Halloween princess, the idea fizzled out Thank God.
 

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I think there are five trunk or treats going on at the local churches here today. I brought my sons to one once. All the kids had to line up and wait and told when to start walking. You walk around not so scary car trunks. It was awful. These people manages to suck the fun out of one of the most exciting night out of childhood. I really felt sorry for all the kids, the event is really for the adults.
 

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1. Things aren't always what they seem- we went out after dark, and while there were ghouls, witches, and monsters everywhere, it taught me that what you think is real and what actually is, are two different things. I learned the dark is nothing to fear. Sometimes the best things happen in the dark of night. (Great ideas, sleep, a first kiss)

2. I learned the value of hard work. My neighbors helped me learn that you can't visit the same house twice. The more ground you cover, the more you earn. This holds true in adulthood too. The more connections you have, and the harder you strive to make new connections, the greater the return.

3. We learned that safety is important- we were not taught to be paranoid, but were taught what to watch out for. As we got older and our parents let us go out alone, we always used the buddy system. We carried flashlights so we didn't trip, and we attached reflectors to our clothing so cars could see us. We looked both ways before crossing the street, and we always made it home safely.

4. We learned what real dangers are, and aren't- we never found a razor blade in our candy, nor was anyone handing out free drugs. (Do you really think someone that had drugs would willingly give them away for free? If so, you're a special kind of stupid!). I do remember one year there was a recall on Smarties candies, because of an accident at their plant, that caused glass shards to make it into some candies. This was covered in national news and the recall was issued by the candy maker themselves. Our neighbors never tampered with the candy.

5. Play by the rules- many of my neighbors had a "no costume, no candy" policy. If you can't afford a $75+ costume, you can make one. There's millions of options out there. But whatever you do, If you are going out, you must play by the rules and wear a costume.
I agree with all of this. It's a lot like playing games where there are no points (so no one really "wins") or giving everyone a participation medal. Where's the fun in that?! There's no incentive to be creative or have fun. The parents dress up their precious little angels in the exact same store-bought Elsa costume and walk them around in a circle (in broad daylight, mind you) so they can gossip to other parents and keep their kids safe. I get it, of course I want my kids to be safe. But this is in no way a real Halloween. My town doesn't have trunk or treats, but has had a few things held in buildings that are basically the same thing. I'm glad my parents have never done that to us, and I'm proud to keep the tradition alive by keeping Halloween outside, in the dark, and as spooky as possible!
 

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Not a fan of it, but also do not want to bash anything that helps bring enjoyment to Halloween and kids. I just say do both.......More candy!
 

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I have never once understood trunk or treat. Does not make a lick of sense to me. What's the difference between trunk or treat and trick or treating except the lack of distance? We whine and complain about how north americans are getting fatter and fatter and kids are getting less and less exercise, so we take a holiday that allows kids to get candy if they do some exercise to get it, and cut all the exercise from it? What? I just don't get it. Now I've never really seen it around here, maybe that's why.....
 

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I think trunk or treat is one of the silliest ideas I've ever heard of but I don't think it's the end of western civilization or anything, and I refuse to get all "when I was a youngster" about it. Things change. Traditions evolve. We are each free to celebrate as we see fit.
 
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I think it takes away from the sense of community. Maybe if you did take your kids ToTing you'd know your neighbors & then you wouldn't be afraid of them.

We have a couple not far away but they're usually not ON Halloween & the one I know of is church affiliated but I think some of those people don't live where they can really go door to door or it's just truly not safe to do so.

The don't really affect our little town's ToTing either. We still do it the old fashioned way & just as many grown-ups as kids like seeing our house.

I think they could co-exist. Have Trunk or Treat on the weekend before but still do Trick or Treat on Halloween. But I don't know if people do that. You could get a bunch of candy at Trunk or Treat & then give it all away on Halloween!!
 

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We have a few of them around in my area, but none of them interfere with Trick or Treat. They are their own events usually on a different day. I took my girls to the one at the Church at the end of our block, and I'll tell ya, it was enjoyable. They always have a good turnout. This year was about 400 people. It had a very Fall/Halloween feel to it all as well. Most of the cars were decorated up in some type of fashion and the people handing out were all mostly dressed up as well. The costumes ranged from the very "generic" to some really nice costumes. One "trunk" set up was meant to be a toxic waste dump the people handing out were dressed as zombies. There was also a group dressed as elves and had a Christmas set up. They did it as a poke and everyone loved it and was laughing. In addition to the trunk or treat line there was also tables set up for pumpkin decorating, various games being played, photo ops, and hot cider, punch, and hot dogs. They had everything decorated with hay bails, cornstalks, and some old fashioned Halloween die cuts hanging. No one was spouting off about "Devils Holiday" or any of that. It's not the purpose of this particular trunk or treat. It's just another Fall/Halloween event for the community, and guess what, the kids will still go out and trick or treat on the big day.

Now, I don't know if there are areas that have trunk or treat events that are trying to replace the traditional Oct. 31st trick or treating, and for that I would say "Boo!". I don't go for that at all, but from what I know from our area and surrounding places, it's just another event. I have to sometimes wonder if a lot of the "anti trunk or treat" attitudes are just the knee jerk reactions or over thought reasoning of hardcore Halloween enthusiasts.

Just my 2 cents.
 

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I don't think we have any Trunk-or-Treat events around here- but I'm not a church-goer and it might fly under my radar, I can see the advantages of it where houses are far far apart or where a neighborhood is too dangerous for children. Most of us immediately think of a Leave It To Beaver TOT experience when we think of Halloween. That's what I - along with most of us- grew up with. But that's not the case for every child. Sadly, I watch the news every night and hear about constant gun fire and other crimes in poor city neighborhoods. A community event for Halloween is as close as those kids are gonna get to experiencing anything resembling Trick-or-Treat. So I say if Trunking is the better alternative - go for it! It doesn't bother me one way or another.

As for the folks that throw a Trunk-or-Treat purely for religious reasons... news flash: You're still celebrating Halloween! ;)
 

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I'm definitely against trunk or treat/fall festivals especially those that fall on October 31st during traditional trick or treating time.
It is really just used to try to get to families through their kids. They want you to hang out long enough so they can get you to learn about the Lord instead of celebrating Halloween. Its just an opportunity to evangelize to people outside their church.
 

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I'm definitely against trunk or treat/fall festivals especially those that fall on October 31st during traditional trick or treating time.
It is really just used to try to get to families through their kids. They want you to hang out long enough so they can get you to learn about the Lord instead of celebrating Halloween. Its just an opportunity to evangelize to people outside their church.

This is a very false generalization. Out of the ones that I have taken my kids to I have never been approached in that way. Ever.

As for Fall Festivals, they've been around for much longer than the Trunk or Treat events. One of our locals has had a Fall Festival the second weekend of October for 34 years now. It has nothing really to do with Halloween itself, but is a celebration of the Fall season. I don't see where that would be a threat to Halloween. There is also Apple Cider Festivals all over, and has been for years. Those are generally classifies as Fall Festivals. They are no threat.
 

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I respectfully disagree. The ones hosted by churches that are on Halloween night are all about ministering to people. There are many church websites that talk about it. They do it for that reason and encourage other churches to do the same. I'm obviously not referring to fall festivals put on by schools etc.
 
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