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This past year, I had a lot of teenagers come to my house trick or treating in just black clothes or just wearing a mask. Half of them didn't even say "Trick or Treat". Instead, they would just stand there with their school backpack open, waiting for me to drop candy in.
Even some adults do this!

My question is: Would YOU turn them away, or just hand them the candy anyway? I typically give them the candy anyway, but not happily. They are ruining my favorite holiday!
 

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I have no prob. turning them away. I tell them that if they can't put effort into dressing up then I'm not putting any effort into dropping candy into whatever they are holding. I usually don't have this prob. since most of the children around here know what I will do. You have to set a standard or they think they can just walk all over you. For the parents we offer bottles of beer or warm cider so we don't have a prob. with them wanting candy if they bring their children around dressed up.
 

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I make them say "trick or treat" or they don't get anything. You can also have different kinds of candy for the older kids/adults. We have candy bars for the kids and cheapo tootsie rolls or suckers for adults and older kids. What you're experiencing is commonplace for a lot of us. We get a lot of older kids and adults who TOT but more likely freeloading. Everyone gets a treat but you can vary the quality depending on who it is.
 

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I would set aside some 'special' candy for those types - last year's candy kisses from Christmas, broken candy canes...just to name a few. :D
 

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OMG, I love the idea of left over candy canes! I'm going to save a bunch from this year. The cheap candy idea is great. I'll have to try that one.
 

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We have a rule, they do a turn or they get nothing, even if it is only one out of the group who sings a song or tells a joke, they have to at least make an attempt. I also dont give candy to kids who are not dressed up (unless it is an older sibling on guard duty and then I ensure they get something purely for the embressment of having to escort the younger one around.)

I am willing to risk rotton eggs to enforce this rule as you get nothing for nothing in this life and kids have the best jokes!
 

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I LOVE the idea of the broken candy canes too. Haha.
I'm thinking of making sign for the front yard: "Rules for Trick or Treating." :D
 

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I give the ones who refuse to dress up an extra fright, like chase after them into the streets to harass another poor soul. I have no sympathy for those who don't keep with the spirit.
 

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For teenagers that come bearing hands only for treats they get a slight hand candy switch. They think they are getting the good stuff when all it is is one piece of bubble gum .;)What burns my behind is the parents that come up with babies and buckets for candy for the baby or they send their older children up with pails for their 3 month old baby sister/brother . :rolleyes:
 

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I usually hand out sweets to everyone but hand out more depending on how much effort they have put into their costumes. I couldn't bear the thought of giving kids bad memories of Halloween, not getting any sweeties etc.
 

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We don't get enough trick or treaters here to be picky. I'm happy for anyone to walk up and give us a chance to "play."
 

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I don't care if they have a costume, are adults or whatever; they all get candy and the same candy that every other TOT gets.

~pulling out the soapbox~

I don't get the idea of punishing TOTs.

To me, there may be some kids that can't afford a costume, may not have any imagination to come up with a costume (especially in this day and age), or are too embarrassed to make that sort of effort in front of their friends. There are kids that were probably told "you're stupid for going TOT" and made to feel bad about wanting to dress up, so they go in regular clothes because they still want candy... and just barely hanging onto the whole being a kid thing and for this one night at least I am going to treat them like the kids they are (or want to be).

Why risk turning a kid against Halloween? I've got teenagers that still TOT in my neighborhood, and one group has progressively dressed up more and more each year, and I'd like to think that seeing an ADULT that goes crazy with decorating and doesn't treat them like crap might have a small something to do with it. ;)

/rant
 

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I agree, I give the extra fright but still cough up a treat just for being a good sport.
I want others to love Halloween too, maybe not as much as us, but still like it.
 

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Well said Frankie. I think you have pulled a lot of truth out of the discussion. I think its better to give people the benefit of the doubt :)
 

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It's definitely more fun if they're dressed up, but we give out candy regardless. Without them, there would be no point to decorate and scare.

The lucky kids are the ones who are the last few of the night. That's when we start getting rid of whatever candy is left. One year, one kid got the last several handfuls of what we had. That was one happy kid!

I do notice that more and more parents are pushing their infants and toddlers in strollers to get candy on their behalf. At least THEY make an effort to dress the little ones up.

Yeah, we don't really discriminate against TOTs (it's one less thing to stress over). The candy is there to give away, so we give it away. The important thing is that everyone has fun getting candy and scaring. I prefer scaring. Muahahahahahahaha!
 

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I'm in Frankie's Girl's camp. you come to the haunt, you get a treat. I'll ask them if they want ducky or glow bracelet with their candy, and if they say yes, they get one. I'm not doing this to judge, I'm doing this to have a good time, and give them a good time. If they laugh at us in our costumes...well, at least they're laughing! Actually, the response is generally positive, like "Pretty cool!". I don't remember anyone dissing our display.
And if they see mature(?) adults dressing up and having a good time, that's gotta have some sort of positive impact on them. There's enough of a negative attitude towards Halloween and ToTing from other sources, why add to it?
 

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For teenagers that come bearing hands only for treats they get a slight hand candy switch. They think they are getting the good stuff when all it is is one piece of bubble gum .;)What burns my behind is the parents that come up with babies and buckets for candy for the baby or they send their older children up with pails for their 3 month old baby sister/brother . :rolleyes:
OO i hate that!!!:mad::mad::mad:
 

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i give out candy to everyone regardless of the effort. granted if you show up with no costume or effort you may get 1 piece, but if you make that extra effort and dress up you will get a handfull. V came to my haunt last year and i think i gave him half my sack. i <3 V.
 

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Well we TOT twice.. once the weekend before halloween and we never had an issue with no one dressed up.

The second is at our house and we have a few who don't dress up and we still give candy. What can i say i think this year i may offer to have them help next year with scaring the TOTs some and take part in the whole "experience."
 

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you know those little paper treat bags you can fill up candy with? I fill up most of them with candy and when people come to the door who are older I give them ones that I have filled up with rocks, balled up newspaper, leaves, etc...

hey, they say "TRICK or treat"...
 
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