Caution Possible "Soap Opera" ahead..
My two young Sons.
After working almost every day,being "On-Call"
almost 23/7 long hours for 15 years, doing work many others did not want to do, we were losing our house.
My wife said "Go for it!" when the house I have now came up for sale.
I begged others for financial help for many months .
We had plans for multiple uses for this house if we could get it , and give us all a place to live.
My plans were to have part of it be a "Haunted House" She was in total, enthusiastic agreement,.... until I told her we now had the money (a personal loan) and we had the house!
She looked kind of dejected? Said nothing to the contrary as to what ,if anything she was thinking or planning to do.
I rented a carpet cleaning machine, was using it here when she sent her Son down to tell me she was not going to be moving here.
She had just spent the last Five years with a phone up to head for numerous hours every day listening to two local women tell her how terrible their Husbands were and she had now joined that "Club",even though I was not at all acting as they were ,except for working long hours to try to support my family.and never having enough $$.
Somehow? SHE "Found" or borrowed enough money to rent a very nice house in the country? Skimming? She also could have been helped from a wealthy man she had known before we met? Who did leave her a big house ,a bank account and a bunch of antiques.($170,000 total value?)
She said "Satan" had helped me get the $ to buy my house, then she moved into the nice house , and it just happened to be owned by the Same nice elderly man who loaned me the $3,000 to buy this house? He was not "Satan".
With some Luck,a lot of long ,hard hours of creative work,using scrap wood and other junked items I was able to make this place work, I provided child support every week and eventually offered to do more than just weekly support,which she refused but then, she really didn't need it I guess either?
Before" it all hit the fan", i could spend every spare moment with our four boys, (Hers,mine, ours) which I did, playing catch,bike riding,just being together,we lived a block from the school we ate Lunch together, i coached the Small fry Baseball team, being with my kids. All that came to an abrupt end.
Funny thing was , the couple of times she had a part time job,she felt she could spend that money on her girlfriends even though we were eating Corn Meal and margarine twice a day.but that was "OK"...
I encouraged her to attend Jr. College. I rebuilt a car so she had something to drive to get there and back a 50mile round trip,only to have her one "girlfriend" make fun of me for it.
We got Divorced but her one "G.F. and her totally" terrible" Husband remained married up until recently and the other woman is still married to her" terrible" Husband? There were long periods of time when I could never speak to my wife because the phone receiver was up to her head all the time.Much more important than our kids or possibly cooking or cleaning any little thing.
She got enough education to become a Kindergarten helper,then went further (I guess?) to get a better position.
Maybe the reason for" our "downfall concerning one another was helped when she handed me some papers,"Here,fill these out!"
they were several pages, hundreds of psychological questions.from her Jr. College class in Child Psych.
I had always allowed her to think that she was "The Smart One",she needed this for her fragile ego?
When she returned those little test papers to her instructor and they went over my answers ,My wife began looking at me differently .
the instructor said:"WHO filled this out? Nobody can be like this,Passive --Aggressive,ying-yang; yadda-yadda-yadda!" (Whatever?)
She felt threatened because ,maybe,just maybe i wasn't as simple as I acted?
"Lift that ladder, pull that wrench, sweep that soot, lift that boiler,hand mix concrete ,run that heavy old Roto-rooter machine by myself....all at 5ft9-- 175 pounds working alone mostly.
Did I do the "Right Thing"? My options were very close to none. My now ex even got me a 3-day job working driving a tractor for a local Farmer,which i joyfully did,even though I have never liked the smell of hog defecation. It was "money"
I don't "Drink" Do Drugs.Smoke,never owned a "Boat on the River" or a Snow mobile or a Motorcycle,never been jailed Because i always murder all the witnesses! People assume those are "Buckies!"