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Went to Sam's club during lunch to buy the candy and in line people were looking at how much candy I was buying and of course I got the mandatory cute remarks but two couples said something that made me shake my head. They both said "we just turn our lights off, we don't want to be bothered".

All I could come back with was this lame line "I do it for the kids, I like to see the smile on their faces".

What is it with people today?
 

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I'll tell you what it is.....We discussed this very topic (sort of) in my Sunday school class a couple of weeks ago. We were talking about service and how we are supposed to serve one another. But, our church has a men's group that goes around the community and will offer to mow people's grass...just mow it. No pressure. They aren't going to force you to come to church or anything. They just want to serve. Some people will turn them down.

Tieing this all together..... a few weeks ago I was at a gas station early early in the morning, on my way to work. A guy was at the pump on the other side and he looked like he was just getting off work. He had one his blue work shirt (looked like the kind a delivery person or mechanic would wear) and he had his white tee shirt on under it. Kind of look disheveled. Anyway, he looks over and me and says "beautiful morning, isn't it?" I REALLY didn't want to respond because the first thought in my head was "why is this random guy talking to me and what does he want from me?? Money?? I made myself answer back "yeah. sure is" and then he finished pumping his gas and looks at me and says "have a blessed day" Wow. I felt so stupid and so like a heel. I was so worried about being bothered about someone asking me for something that I wasn't even open to saying good morning. That is what our country and our society has become. Self absorbed with our phones, technology. We don't want to be bothered. We don't want to reach out to people and help. I recently saw an elderly man with his backpack sitting in an Arbys when I went with a co-worker for lunch one day. You could tell the man was probably homeless. He had a cup sitting in front of him and had some coins stacked up on the table. Now, he could have been a scammer - who knows. But, I kept wanting to go over and ask him if he had or would like some lunch. But, I couldn't make myself do it out of fear of offending him. This was a few weeks ago. It still bothers me that I didn't get out of my comfort zone and ask him. My co-worker said he wouldn't have bothered because if you aren't going to consistently offer help, then why even do it the first time. My response was that maybe it's just that one time that makes the difference for someone.

Sorry for the long post....but, it is sad where we are as a society and all we can do is our best and what we feel led to do. The people, like me, that don't try and make a difference or try and do something nice for others, are the ones that are missing out.

off my soapbox now.
 

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Went to Sam's club during lunch to buy the candy and in line people were looking at how much candy I was buying and of course I got the mandatory cute remarks but two couples said something that made me shake my head. They both said "we just turn our lights off, we don't want to be bothered".

All I could come back with was this lame line "I do it for the kids, I like to see the smile on their faces".

What is it with people today?
I would ask them how they felt about adults who did that when they were that age.
 

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Since I suck the fun out of all the other Holidays, I can understand people not wanting to ante up and lay out cash for candy. We have folks here, who as couples don't hand out candy because they both take their little ones ToTing...Do they not get it?

Like Oaklawn, I do it because I like it. I would be spending a whole lot less time, money and effort on this thing if it was just for the kids.
 

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As soon as I read your post the first thing I thought of was to remember what happened to people like that when we were kids !!:rolleyes:

I am not saying vandalism is good but lets face it if you live in a large neighborhood and everybody is participating and you just want to be an ***, then a tree full of TP may just be what the doctor ordered. ;)
 

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I live on 31st street (hence the name) and I've always envisioned a full street long haunt (hence the name)(I tried to include the neighbors 8^) although I do clog the street fairly well all by myself 8^o Most pass out candy (one across street told me 10 bags gone in a hour last year 8^) but not all do. I had a guy who does a big Christmas yard stop by last year who told me I inspired him to start doing Halloween and I saw he had a nice (mostly inflatable) display up last year.

I get asked all the time why I do it and there's no easy answer, you get the calling or you don't, sometimes a bite helps 8^) but mostly I do it for me as I love to make things from old junk and give it one last part to play in its chapter of life before hitting the landfill. After 13 years of doing it, my favorite reason and story is probably of a grandma who lives a few housed down from me who told me a few years back that her oldest grandson had been coming for 10 years but the youngest at 10 hadn't been able to get past the gate the last 2 years waiting in line/trying but, so far unable to get past the gates. She also added that the older one had joined the armed services and was overseas that year and he'd written her to say that missing my haunt was one of the things he was missing the most being there (talk about ripping a monsters heart out)(I picture myself with this quivering lip as she's telling me this 8^). The next year, both GK's and grandma came through the haunt so the kid made it back okay 8^) Long story short is some people do get it and that's who I do it for... the rest I use for prop material, LMAO }8^)
 

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I remember trick or treating when I was a kid and those houses that had their lights turned off even though we all knew someone was home....LAME! Those people were no fun, I can tell you that. I ALWAYS remembered the houses that did Halloween, the adults that dressed up to hand out candy...it was awesome!

Now sadly, as an adults me and my husband don't get any trick or treaters to our house at all! Its sad.....but I still do Halloween props, lights etc. Its so much fun!

It always surprises me how many "humbugs" (sorry, I call them "kill joys" usually...) there are....SO many people I know were complaining this year that the Halloween stuff was put out EARLY!! Makes me sad....Its not early enough in my opinion and I find I am rushing each year to collect new pieces before they are gone! :)
(just had to put in my 2 cents, I'm sure there are rants about this in other places on the forum :) :) )
 

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We live on a street called "Pumpkin Alley" because for 14 years now, we close down both ends of our street, decorate it with hundreds of lit jack o lanterns and welcome literally thousands of trick or treaters from all across the region. 2 years ago, two neighbors said we needed to stop this tradition because of the cost and the hassle. At an informal block meeting, we discussed the issue and the other 20 homeowners asked the same question: since we are creating memories and traditions for thousands of children, isn't that worth a few hours of inconvenience? The naysayers had no answer to that and eventually slinked home.
 

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Maybe they work 2nd/3rd shift and can't be home Halloween night. Maybe they can't afford the candy that is getting more expensive every year. Maybe they don't get any ToTs in their neighborhood. Maybe they take care of an unwell family member that is shaken and confused by having strangers in costumes knocking on the door all night. Maybe their religious beliefs shun the celebration of any holidays. Maybe they go to an annual party and don't feel like leaving a bowl to be raided by the first passing group.

Maybe they just don't enjoy the holiday as much, so instead of trudging through it to keep up with the Jones', they pull the shades and watch a movie instead.

Asking what's wrong with them, calling them killjoys, or worse, and suggesting their house could [or should] be vandalized sure as heck isn't going to win them over into celebrating alongside you. A treeful of TP isn't going to make a pumpkin appear on their porch next year, it's going to make an angry neighbor who dislikes Halloween that much more.

If it's not interfering with your own celebration of the holiday, is it really worth complaining about?
 
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dogman, I understand your point but other than the 'working" reason all the others are just excuses in my mind. In this day and age if you live where there are children its just part of the year. Not to mention its a great way to get to know your neighbors. As for cost, another excuse. We NEVER get anybody because for years we really did live out in the country but we still made popcorn and filled sandwich bags just in case, cheap and easy.Then we would dump them all in a big pan and watch movies after it got late and no kids showed up.
Now , this year with a school up the street ( that my wife works at) and houses and shopping centers everywhere we may see some TOT kids. Plus they go out early these days and we are having our party that night. So we will be ready.

So even though I see what you are trying to say its still seems lame to me to not at least greet the kids and offer a treat. If not that's OK too.

As for the vandalism I am sure these days with all the crazy stand your ground laws you would have to be nuts to even try. I still remember my favorite from my childhood. The next morning a family in our neighborhood I grew up in who passed on Halloween found at least FIFTY for sale signs from different realtors in there yard. It was a funny site to see and nobody got hurt.
 

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My husband and I get that reaction when we go pick up our candy (3500) pieces from the store because it fills up a whole cart. This is our thing and we want to share it with anyone who wants to come by and share it with us. Simple and true. We get around 1200 TOTs every year and you still remember those few who get a scare for the 1st time or have special needs and love the sounds and lights in your yard. You cannot help but want to do bigger, better for next year. Let them turn off their lights but I always invite them to come and enjoy our house if they would like to experience it just once.
 

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Maybe they work 2nd/3rd shift and can't be home Halloween night. Maybe they can't afford the candy that is getting more expensive every year. Maybe they don't get any ToTs in their neighborhood. Maybe they take care of an unwell family member that is shaken and confused by having strangers in costumes knocking on the door all night. Maybe their religious beliefs shun the celebration of any holidays. Maybe they go to an annual party and don't feel like leaving a bowl to be raided by the first passing group.

Maybe they just don't enjoy the holiday as much, so instead of trudging through it to keep up with the Jones', they pull the shades and watch a movie instead.

Asking what's wrong with them, calling them killjoys, or worse, and suggesting their house could [or should] be vandalized sure as heck isn't going to win them over into celebrating alongside you. A treeful of TP isn't going to make a pumpkin appear on their porch next year, it's going to make an angry neighbor who dislikes Halloween that much more.

If it's not interfering with your own celebration of the holiday, is it really worth complaining about?
Exactly...we don't need to make everything in the world an us against them situation.
 

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dogman, I understand your point but other than the 'working" reason all the others are just excuses in my mind. In this day and age if you live where there are children its just part of the year. Not to mention its a great way to get to know your neighbors. As for cost, another excuse. We NEVER get anybody because for years we really did live out in the country but we still made popcorn and filled sandwich bags just in case, cheap and easy.Then we would dump them all in a big pan and watch movies after it got late and no kids showed up.
Now , this year with a school up the street ( that my wife works at) and houses and shopping centers everywhere we may see some TOT kids. Plus they go out early these days and we are having our party that night. So we will be ready.

So even though I see what you are trying to say its still seems lame to me to not at least greet the kids and offer a treat. If not that's OK too.

As for the vandalism I am sure these days with all the crazy stand your ground laws you would have to be nuts to even try. I still remember my favorite from my childhood. The next morning a family in our neighborhood I grew up in who passed on Halloween found at least FIFTY for sale signs from different realtors in there yard. It was a funny site to see and nobody got hurt.
Do you think the neighbors thought "o gee, we should give out candy next year" or "what the hell is wrong with people in this neighborhood" as your sign prank comes across as a big F. Hugh. To think that nobody gets hurt when you are bullying them, is pretty naive.
 
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