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How rude were your TOT'rs?

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Over the years I have noticed that more kids are not respecting the tradition of saying "Trick or Treat".

Is anyone seeing the same trend on the Forum?

I had a few kids this year actually just say "Gimme some candy."
In order to get the treats I've always asked kids to say those magic words.
One brat actually said "Are you gunna give me some candy, or what?" :(

Funny thing tho...with the exception of the brat, most all the other kids said "Thank you." Huh.
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we had a couple of rude ones this year which was never the case in the past. Maybe Im just getting old haha
Not at all. Never had a problem with rudeness, this year or in the past. Then again, I don't make anyone say anything. If they say trick or treat, fine. If they just hold out their bag, fine. We all know what they are there for.
We had kids not even in costume, come to our place. So instead of giving them candy , we put rocks in those little pastic things you get out of gumball machines and gave those to the kids and adults not in costume. yeah adults.. TRICK OR TREAT they got tricked LOL....
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We have some that just put their bags out. Although I think some of ours is more they are too scared to say it. So maybe 50/50. Most of them say thank you at least. Had to remind my own kids that the basics of ToT is to say Trick or Treat and Thank you.
We had kids not even in costume, come to our place. So instead of giving them candy , we put rocks in those little pastic things you get out of gumball machines and gave those to the kids and adults not in costume. yeah adults.. TRICK OR TREAT they got tricked LOL....
Haha! if I weren't to busy scaring ToTs. I would do the same!
Rude? Not at all. No complaints, quite a pleasant well behaved group. Bag count indicated just under 100.
We had kids not even in costume, come to our place. So instead of giving them candy , we put rocks in those little pastic things you get out of gumball machines and gave those to the kids and adults not in costume. yeah adults.. TRICK OR TREAT they got tricked LOL....
Looking to get your house egged? Cause that's how you get your house egged. lol I just give them cheap crappy candy.
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My problem is not so much rudeness, as it is with kids running through the front yard haunt, messing up the timing so the they miss the scares. It's frustrating to work so hard choreographing the action, building props, setting up the timers only to have kids looking back over their shoulder going, "What was that?" I don't know if it's because their so focused on getting the candy, or if their scared and racing through to avoid the scary things.
We had more polite than rude ones. We had a few that were really rude and out of control. My husband was dressed as a tall grim reaper, and we had some kids shove him, etc.
When the night was through, my boys told me some of the TOTers were a little more aggressive this year...One adult even slapped my 11 year old (he laughed it off and assumed it was because he really scared her...which he probably did he is a great actor) I was very frustrated to hear the stories of pushing and shoving of my actors...I guess I will have to make a sign and babysit next year. Kind of frustrating, but we live and learn.
Looking to get your house egged? Cause that's how you get your house egged. lol I just give them cheap crappy candy.
Ditto. Prime candy is for kids 15 - 16 or so and under,costumes, good behavior ..They get full sized bars. Rude kids, get the less prime stuff as do adults.

We had a few mannerless kids, but nothing terrible. Most were pretty respectful and polite.
I haven't ever really had a problem with rude ones. The ones who don't say ToT are usually little ones who are too scared to say it. I do have the problem with kids lurking in my yard messing stuff up though, that annoys the crap out of me.
I wasn't near the candy bowl, so I don't know if there was any rudeness....I didn't hear about it.

I don't have a problem with people messing with my stuff. A couple went where they weren't supposed to and when I said something they quickly did what I asked. I wouldn't say they were rude or malicious, they just weren't paying attention. I have a cemetery fence built around most of my haunt and line the path I want the haunters to take with orange rope lights, and pretty much everybody gets the hint and follows the path, so no problems.

The only thing that bugs me is that crowd that hangs out at the bottom of the driveway planning what they're going to do next...move along people
Gave out full sized bars for the first time this year, and had them in a big bowl so the kiddies could see what I had and pick their favorite. I was disheartened by the number of kids that tried to grab more than one. It was a relatively small number in the grand scheme of things, maybe 6-10 kids (that I saw at least) but c'mon, full size bars and one is not enough? They ruined it for everyone, because next year we will be back to snack size and will be distrubuting instead of allowing choice.

I don't know the number of TOTers we had, but we went though 180 full size candies, 110 pudding snack packs and 150 pieces of snack sized candy.
Had some a little rude but the majority were great. Even if they didn't say ToT they all said thank you that I saw. We have had some problems in past years with older teenagers coming late and crowding my wife and taking way too much candy. Made her feel uncomfortable because they just kind of backed her in the corner. So this year I was on the lookout for these late comers and had told her I would handle it. I simply made a big point to say hello and be friendly and of course gave them a little bit of a hard time. When we got near the candy they all just stood there. Didn't hold out bags, didn't say anything, just stood so I waited and eventually said so what's up guys and finally one sheepishly said ToT. They all laughed and we walked around. When they left they said it was amazing. All in all a great year and numbers doubled last year.
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One brat actually said "Are you gunna give me some candy, or what?"
Guy in house says "WHAT?" slams door!
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I still take my kids out to ToT but I had to remind them to say it. They always said thank you and happy Halloween but seemed to forget the "Tot" part. After a few houses they got into it. My son who was a zombie ( 8 years old) started walking up and saying "trick or brains" in his best zombie voice. LOL.

When they get older I hope to start doing a big yard display, for now its costumes and makeup until they say they don't want Mom and Dad to go ToTing with them.
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I do think some of the kids are becoming more rude, especially, from 10 up. I always get smart-*** remarks about my costume (Pirate). Also, a lot (not majority) don't even say trick or treat. I have asked them to say and they usually do. Sometimes we are so, busy, we are just putting the candy in their bags. I like reading this forum because it makes me not feel alone about some of the same issues I feel.
We had kids not even in costume, come to our place. So instead of giving them candy , we put rocks in those little pastic things you get out of gumball machines and gave those to the kids and adults not in costume. yeah adults.. TRICK OR TREAT they got tricked LOL....
That's an awesome idea. I'd do that if I didn't think the bastards would remember me and come back later and vandalize my house.

I never really get any "rude" trick or treaters per se, but I do get at least a dozen or so kids every year who just sorta stand there with their bags open without even saying "trick or treat" or at least "Happy Halloween". Usually it's the kids who are a little too old to be trick or treating, but they still want the candy so they do it anyway. Sometimes the kids who don't say trick or treat are busy laughing or talking about my decorations, and I usually get at least a few kids who are polite enough to compliment the decorations, so they get a pass. Last year I did get a couple of smartass kids who felt like they needed to tell me that my scarecrow "wasn't real" (duh) and asked if my Hallowindow display was "just a video". I played stupid and acted like I didn't know what they were talking about.

I do make a point to pull the candy bowl away from the greedy kids who want to stuff their hand in there and take their own candy. That doesn't happen too often, but when it does I just snatch the bowl back and say "Hang on, back up and I'll pass out the candy".

As for the kids who don't even bother dressing up (that's also usually the older kids who probably shouldn't be trick or treating), I just give them crap about their lack of costume, or tell them "sorry, no costume, no candy" then give them candy anyhow.
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