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So....we moved to a new city this year, and I was excited to learn there was a haunt enthusiasts "club" here. (From what I can tell it is just a facebook group). I've become so disappointed with them though, that today I just stopped "liking" them lol
I had tried to post a link here on the forum, but couldn't make a post (only the owner of the group can post), so I sent them a pm mentioning Halloween forum and that it might be of interest to the other members of the group. Their response was "we've known about Halloween forum for years".... But no post on the page for others who maybe didn't know about it.

Yesterday I added our address to the " list" of home haunts on a post, but I said we just do a display not a full haunt/walk through. (To specify to others that we don't do a walk through, so they know what to expect). Their response? "The term home haunt applies to any yard that is decorated, April. It doesn't mean people go through your yard or house or anything". I explained my reasoning behind my post, and that I know what a home haunt is, but I was just specifying ours isn't the kind that is a full display.

Their responses to me both times have just seemed condescensing and cold. I'm disappointed. I honestly expected more welcoming and friendly behavior from fellow haunters, especially considering the wonderful stories I see on here all the time of other haunt groups.

So, I took my name off the list of haunts and deleted the group. We will keep on haunting on our own, because clearly the haunt community here isn't as welcoming as I'd expected. Boo to them ;) anyone else experience anything like this with other haunters?
 

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Well, I am sorry. That is why I registered here. I have had contact with 3 "big" haunters in my area. All 3 were men, and total jerks to me. I am a woman and I do my own stuff with occasional help from my husband, bless him.

(These aren't "known" haunters, just guys in my area who have pretty big yard haunts.)

I think I am an ok person, and very enthusiastic about haunting and halloween. These guys were cold, non talkative, and very very berry very very competitive.

Now, we all know what we like, but I personally don't judge another's haunt. Other than to say hey great I love halloween too your yard looks great.

And I mean it, too. Kids love that stuff, I love that stuff, and we need more of it. Much much more.

One of the big haunters is on my street. He is friends with our neighbors and he never speaks to me even though I made a good effort, without being creepy, overbearing, or mental, to chat with him about his haunt and our obvious mutual love of halloween.

Message received, dude.

So I like halloween forum. People are nice here.

And I expect that not all haunters will fall into each other's arms and deeply kiss one another. I expect that all kinds of people haunt, and we all can't be buddies.

But these guys can't even be polite. I even bought from one of their kids while they were making the school fundraising rounds, hoping he'd at least not be a cold fish.

Oh wells.

It sounds like you ran into a group with serious power issues and you can't help that. I'd rather be alone than have some kind of strange group rejecting me and being buttheads to me.
 

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Sadly, there will always be haunters who are elitist pricks, even in here. I ran into one not long after I joined here, who made it clear he thought he was god's gift to haunters when I pointed out it wasn't a good practice to put screws on a tombstone that was supposed to mark a grave for someone who died more than a century before mass produced screws were invented.
 

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That's what I like coming here too. Its more of a family , like every time I log on and post its like we're all at a family dinner throwing ideas at one another. Outside of here it is too...elitist. Idunno my opinion maybe, I just really really like it here
 

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Yep you guys got it down! That's why I love Halloween forum so much is because I have found nothing but support and kindness in regards to haunting on this forum! So much love here! So thank you all for being the haunt community you are!
 

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Sorry to hear about your local forum. That is a bummer. I have loved being a new member here at this forum. I really like sharing ideas with everyone and getting opinions good and bad as long as they are constructive and not too preachy. Halloween can be serious and fun at the same time. Some people just take out the fun and get way too serious about the props. Remember flaws make it better, not worse.
Everyone that tries deserves a "Hey nice job on your set-up" from fellow haunters.
 

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That really stinks. Personally, I'd love to come across other people in real life who are as nuts about Halloween as I am. I know my husband certainly wishes I had someone else to chat about Halloween stuff with. I love that the forum has people at all levels of skill and experience and in general are super helpful and quite welcoming. On the flipside, when I was getting married I was part of a wedding forum and oh my you would not even believe the level of snark and rudeness.
 

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The best thing is if you don't like your local group is you can start your own and most likely others would want to join because they've had similar experiences with the group before
 

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I'm sorry for your experience. I guess I've been lucky, not only did I find the wonderful folks on here, but my local group is great too. They just are not as active as I would like. Like Erich said, maybe you should try to find others interested in getting their haunt on in your area. Best of luck to you.
 

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I've always been excited to meet another haunter. It's an opportunity to learn what somebody else is doing and also an affirmation that I'm not the only crazy person in the world. We used to have several big participants on our street and we all looked at it as a collective effort to provide a good time for all. We were quite happy if anyone jumped on the decorating band wagon, regardless of whether they had an active haunt. Every little bit helps to enhance the overall experience. I'm considering shifting away from having a yard haunt and focusing more on general decoration myself. The primary reasons being that since Bush screwed up the time change, our trick or treat time usually only lasts about an hour and a half. It's a LOT of work, for 2 hours of haunting. Also, weather can kill a Halloween night. If I focus on yard decoration instead, I have people walking by/driving by all month to see what I've done, what I've added. Sometimes people know my yard better than I do. I remember one year some guy walking through the yard commented, " You forgot to turn on the flying ghosts eyes." I looked and he was right.:)
 

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Yes, that is what is awesome about this forum, the sharing of ideas and different methods to achieve the same results. IF it wasn't for this place, I wouldn't have been able to build half of my props. I was part of the disastrous group buy on the e-crackers a few years ago, but was lucky enough to get mine. Thank Goodness for Halloween Forum!
 
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I guess like everything thing in life it takes all kinds. Sorry you ran into the snobby ones. I know a few Canadian haunters in the Vancouver area, they are a fine bunch. I have gotten to know a couple of "pro" haunters and a number of home haunters in the Seattle/Portland area. Some are the sweetest folks you'd ever get to know and share of themselves, their thoughts and their help. There are a couple who wouldn't give you the time of day. I see it as their lost.
 

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I do think haunting can be quite competitive. We all want the best house on the block, right? :)

Halloween forum has always been the best gather place for showcasing and gathering ideas. I know of several Haunters that look down on the forum and are not active members.

Same with going pro...very few people actually make money from this hobby. Most put more into it...time and money than they ever get out of it. Of course we do it for the gratitude of our community. Some just take themselves too seriously.
 

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I've said it before, and I'm sure I'll say it again, there is a reason that I'm a participatory member here; the atmosphere is just plain different.

The tone here is almost always collaborative, supportive, and positive. Other places, not so much. :(

I don't have a Facebook account, or a Twitter-thingy, or any other 'social media' presence, and what you describe is one of the contributing reasons; someone always seems to have something negative to say, or just wants to be in a position of made-up power. Yuck.

If I ultimately stumble into some super-cool local haunters by accident that will be great, but in the meanwhile, I guess I'm just glad this place feels like home.
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man thats a shame, id LOVE LOVE LOVE to have anyone in my neighborhood get in the spirit and even just hang a handkerchief ghost up and throw a string of lights in a bush...i'll stop and show the love to them...... to bad you have met these egos,........my halloween "haunt" is my thing, not a competition, its what i love, what i will do for me to share with whoever wants to come have some fun, i compete with myself and NOT others. the folks ive met around here, love to talk up what they do, they are proud of it and love to show off with fellow haunters...birds of a feather you know.....last thing i need is to compete with anyone else, i push myself hard enough as it is and stress myself out......lol.........

Well, I am sorry. That is why I registered here. I have had contact with 3 "big" haunters in my area. All 3 were men, and total jerks to me. I am a woman and I do my own stuff with occasional help from my husband, bless him.

(These aren't "known" haunters, just guys in my area who have pretty big yard haunts.)

I think I am an ok person, and very enthusiastic about haunting and halloween. These guys were cold, non talkative, and very very berry very very competitive.

Now, we all know what we like, but I personally don't judge another's haunt. Other than to say hey great I love halloween too your yard looks great.

And I mean it, too. Kids love that stuff, I love that stuff, and we need more of it. Much much more.

One of the big haunters is on my street. He is friends with our neighbors and he never speaks to me even though I made a good effort, without being creepy, overbearing, or mental, to chat with him about his haunt and our obvious mutual love of halloween.

Message received, dude.

So I like halloween forum. People are nice here.

And I expect that not all haunters will fall into each other's arms and deeply kiss one another. I expect that all kinds of people haunt, and we all can't be buddies.

But these guys can't even be polite. I even bought from one of their kids while they were making the school fundraising rounds, hoping he'd at least not be a cold fish.

Oh wells.

It sounds like you ran into a group with serious power issues and you can't help that. I'd rather be alone than have some kind of strange group rejecting me and being buttheads to me.
 

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well said, i was just going to say that, start your own fb group and start inviting locals....and show them how to treat people or say bye bye....i bet you arent the only one around you thats got a similar opinion.................sometimes you got to take charge and go your own way.....good luck!!! dont give up!

The best thing is if you don't like your local group is you can start your own and most likely others would want to join because they've had similar experiences with the group before
 

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If you ever move out my way you will at least receive a warm welcome from me. Find anyone who decorates around here to be the same way for whatever reason. Thankful for the internet and a forum like this.
 
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