Very nice picture. I have no idea if there is any way to send visitor message to all friends, I know that there is that option when you are sending PM message, don't know if it is possible with visitor message.
The wings you commented on are wings that sold with a ltex chest piece. I have tried to find that combination for a couple years. The wings with shirt are still available. They are from California Costumes and I think they are available in a grey as well. You should be able to find them easily.