Thread: Do "no" RSVPs bother you?

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I'm not sure why it's bothering me so much. I just had a couple friends (married couple) call and say they wont be making it next weekend. They do travel 5 hours from out of state & stay in our guest room, so I know it's not convenient, but just last night she said they were coming.

I also had another friend RSVP with a no this morning. I feel like I put in so much work for months and no one will be seeing it. We've spent well over a grand, hired a bartender, have a themed cocktail menu, and will have a 9 foot tall comic boo page painted inside out garage as the photo op area. I should focus on the over 30 people who are coming vs the 10 or 15 who aren't.

I think it's just one of those days. Does it bother anyone else when people can't make it?

Yes I understand totally!
Every "No" always hurts my feelings, even though I know it's not meant to.

I get so paranoid when I throw a party. I think it goes back to my childhood when my sister had a birthday party and no one showed up! It was devastating to see. We worked so hard getting things perfect and even the people who said they would come didn't show.

I get a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach just thinking about it.

I know the feeling. I have a very close family and we do many things together---especially the females. Last weekend for my Be WITCHY party three of my nieces and my own sister didn't come. One niece had just had a baby on Monday and I really wasn't expecting her. She wanted to come and called that morning to say that she just wasnt up to it. Her I understood. The other three really made me upset.

I am now worried about the Boo Bash next weekend. i don't know what their problem was, but if they all don't come this means quite a few since it will be double with the spouses at this one. I am really down about it.

i also had a few close friends who didn't come at the last minute who were planning to come.

Yeah it bothers me when people say they can't come especially if they are regulars. But every year I manage to get new blood so I try to focus on that

Obviously I'd love all of my invited guests be attend, but I'm envious that you get "No" RSVPs. Half of the people we invite never respond to the invitation at all. Makes it all sorts of fun to guess how much food to buy!

I try to just let it go. I do appreciate them at least letting me know. The people that say they are coming and then don't, bother me more. We are the only people around that love Halloween, so we are slowly converting the rest. The fact that they called to tell you means that they care about you

yep, me too. the ones that hurt the most are family...who encourage me to do all the ridiculous things i do and in the same statement mention that they won't be able to make this time around. those drive me insane! but we have 4 or 5 new couples attending this year and i am focused on those that are coming. i appreciate when people rsvp period...my biggest gripe are those that don't bother to contact me at all! i have a prize this year - a raffle that you are entered into whether you attend or not...just that you rsvp! it has worked wonderfully this year! happy haunting to all!

Originally Posted by Halloween Princess

I'm not sure why it's bothering me so much. I just had a couple friends (married couple) call and say they wont be making it next weekend. They do travel 5 hours from out of state & stay in our guest room, so I know it's not convenient, but just last night she said they were coming.

I also had another friend RSVP with a no this morning. I feel like I put in so much work for months and no one will be seeing it. We've spent well over a grand, hired a bartender, have a themed cocktail menu, and will have a 9 foot tall comic boo page painted inside out garage as the photo op area. I should focus on the over 30 people who are coming vs the 10 or 15 who aren't.

I think it's just one of those days. Does it bother anyone else when people can't make it?

In a word, YES! It bugs me to no end some days. Especially if I get few all at once.

I'd be okay with a no right now. Because in my case, people just haven't bothered to rsvp at all! I hate not knowing whether people are coming or not! Just give me an answer one way or the other!

I had my party last night and my problem was the opposite....35 people said they were coming and we had 20 show up. I just thought it was rude that 15 people, some even the night of, said they were coming and then didn't even call to tell us otherwise. It will be my first and last Halloween party because it just wasn't worth all the work for what the party was. People just didn't appreciate it and we spent to much money to just have our "normal" group of friends over. I will say that the people that came were awesome. They took the time to think about their costumes and were a blast to hang out with, so I guess it wasn't a total waste! Anyway I understand completely why you are upset.