Thread: 10 days til our party and I am a wreck

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The closer we get the more anxious I am becoming I am starting to think we should just have skipped the party this year rather than hosting it at my sisters friends home. Please do not get me wrong I am super grateful that they are kind enough to allow us to have the party there but I really do not know them well and each person is different. They seem to be a very nice couple but the wife has severe OCD which I have mild OCD myslef but our parties have always been very informal just everyone mingle and go with the flow type thing. Well the problem is that she is wanting it to be more organized where we have a specific time to hold the costume contest a specific time to do the hay ride a specific time to eat etc. I have always just had everything out where everyone can eat when they are ready the foods kept in warmers and when you get hungry eat I didnt want this to be anything formal its not a dinner party I guess I am just afraid how our guest will respond to such a change I always just annouce it when I am ready for ppl to line up for the costume contest. Also everytime we go to her home shes constantly walking in behind everyone picking up before you have a chance to almost as if shes waiting for you to finish your drink or whatever which makes me feel rushed or as if we are bothering her in some way am I being paranoid or petty What would you guys do ?


I hope this is not a huge mistake *sigh*

That's a tough situation to be in. Since it's their house, you pretty much have to do it her way. Is she contributing anything else but the house?
I'm not really going to be much help, but I feel for you. You definitely don't want guest to feel uncomfortable or like they are in preschool with all the schedules.

Try to talk to her husband about having her back off a bit. I wish you luck and hope the party ends with success!

thankyou I know I feel the same way I dont want her to feel disrespected at all I am so grateful for her allowing us to use her property but as you said dont want anyone to feel like its a timed party she keeps telling me its my party to do however I wish but then she says things that make me feel otherwise no one will be in her house except tp use the restroom I think I will have her husband talk with her and see if we come to a happy medium

Maybe she's anxious about it because she hasn't thrown this kind (or size?) of party before? Would it help if you reassure her that everything always goes fine, and let her sort of work out her schedule in her mind if it seems to help. Once she's in the midst, hopefully she'll see that it's going to have to be somewhat more free-flowing - I mean, real life does not proceed according to schedule. Maybe talk to her about penciling in a certain amount of flexibility?

I think you should try to keep the party as-is. It's worked well in the past without a schedule. It's going to look odd if you have a specific time for eating. Makes sense to have a time for the costume contest but I don't think that you have to announce it - just something to keep at the back of your mind, so you don't forget to have it. Tell her that things will work out as they always do. Unless you had problems (forgot to do things the last time) with the previous parties, I would keep them the same.

yea she was/is a bit concerned with how people will behave esp.with alcohol involved which I totally understand b/c she doesn't know them I did assure her we have never had any problems with people getting out of hand my sister says this is b/c everyone is afraid of my husband b/c he has let it be known at other functions we have hosted that if you are disrespectful you will be asked to leave


[Quote] Calmmoo: Unless you had problems (forgot to do things the last time) with the previous parties, I would keep them the same. "[Quote]

I feel the same way I am sure she is nervous having a good many ppl there she is not familiar with I was for our first party to but if everyone behaves the way they always have at our home I am sure we will be fine I just want everyone including her to have fun and be stress free that night