Thread: Grrr - Party Rant! Hubby wants party but not helping!

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Aaaaagh!! My party is tomorrow and i am not done .
The house is nearly decorated, i have some bits i wanted done for back yard and not sure it will happen, need to get lights and lanterns set up in back yard and am busy prepping food for guests today.

I made all my decorations/props ( witches cauldron - extensiove potion collection/ spell book etc) dragged in branches and cobwebbed the place to kingdom come, have themed all my rooms and.... here is my vent.... my dear beloved other half has whinged that he had to look after our toddler while i did all that ..

I sorted his costume, organised games/prizes/dares, party favours ( cute handmade coffin boxes with witch fingers cookies and scroll poem) got my kid a great costume for his own toddlers group party, brought enough candy for a horde of TOTers, which i will hand out as he doesn't like to "deal with them" ( whats not to like? check out the cute costumes han d out candy! ) and after alkl that i still haven't done MY costume.. guess what i will be doing at midnight tonite!


i LOVE halloween, I love the people who are coming and i think i've worked hard to make it a good night... but right now i can't see it happening and worse... i am feeling a bit mean spirited that I did all this work and he is going to take 50% ( at least) of the credit for a good night.

I know i know he looked after our little one - which i normally do so I KNOW it is a hard job but this feels like such a thankless task right now. I am tryign to stay calm and focused and HE is sulking and flying off the handle at ME! aaaaaaaaaaaaagh!

If it was Christmas i wouldn't be bothered but it's HALLLOWEEN my fave holiday!! i want to enjoy it too....


sorry..

rant over.

just needed to vent.... or do time for husband abuse LOL

Maybe Hubby thinks keeping the rugrat out of the way is the best thing to free you up to get things done. Maybe he thinks he is actually helping by baby sitting to keep the tike out of the decoration hub bub. Maybe you can sujest things for him to do to help because guys are dumb and he probaly thinks rangling the kid is a helpful chore so you can get to decorate and do things that have to be done.

oh i know, kid wrangling is a huge chore but he is at nursery in mornings and has an afternoon nap and we are both at home this week so he COULD be helpful instead of complaining and dragging me down.

I know that when it is all done and the guests arrive he will be a lovely host but i am screaming inside wishing he would jsut "get with the programme" for the prep stuff..

Just needed to scream onthe internet instead of screaming at him LOL

BTW Love your tag line "Stay Scary " ..it will be my thought for the day! :-)

You could make a specific to do list for him (that includes things he can do with a little one in tow). This way he has no excuse and you have some time to do what you need to. Mind you it doesn't mean he will do it as my husband didn't do the sweeping of the rooms or have the kids clean theirs that I asked for before todays party (tho he did do the list I gave him before the first party I had earlier in October) so sometimes you win and sometimes you lose but it's always worth a shot. Good luck and I hope you have luck with your costume. I'm sure you will look fantastic.

Hey savagehunter... Way to support the "guys are dumb" stereotype. How do people get away with that? If I said "all chicks are lazy" I'd be strung up by my hamstrings.

If this one guy is dumb... call him out on it. Don't lump us all together. I can't believe how socially acceptable it is to just say "guys are stupid".

Rant over.

Feel better after ranting?
Now let it go and have a GREAT halloween!

MsM

I think what savagehunter meant is that guys can't read our minds like we sometimes think they should be able to do. I am SO guilty of that! I finally started being more specific about what I need help with and it totally works out (after he mocks me and calls me a witch of course. LOL)

thanks for the list idea, maybe seeing it in writing would help then he can organise it his way whenit suits him.

Was up till 2.30 am this mornign sewing web sleeves and spiders and making a widows mourning veil. up again at 7.30 tp prep food.

i AM sooooooo excited about tonite.

thank you for letting me vent here, don't want to take it out on hubby, he is not dumb and looking after a toddler IS a handful.

Crazy Train - i think you misread what Savage Haunter said, it was actually a really helpful reply and was spot on about keeping kids out of my hair while i'm putting stuff together. It was an almost instant response to my freaking out and it REALLY did help me take a deep breath and calm down. Sorry you got in the neck Savage Haunter, you don't deserve that.

Thanks for letting me get it off my chest - i am back to prepping and enjoying halloween - s'gonna be awesome.

Happy Halloween to EVERYONE !
xx


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