Anyone else having this problem? I send out my invites to my usual crowd, and maybe 1/3 of them actually respond by the RSVP date. The same thing happened last year, and I had people show up who hadn't RSVP'd (so I assumed they weren't coming). So, I ended up calling people today and get the standard "Oh, didn't I RSVP? Yes, we're coming," or the worst, "Well, maybe. It depends on (a) the babysitter (b) whether we're going out of town or (c) whether we're putting the boat in drydock this weekend." Yes, that was an actual response. Sooo, do I count the maybes? Or just scratch 'em off my list for next year?

Grrrr.

I'm having the same issue this year. I think maybe 2 people actually contacted us. One in particular I've messaged on facebook and seen this person online frequently and they refuse to respond. It's so rude.

My husband and I are having the EXACT same problem. We did last year too, to the point that he didn't want to have the party this year. So the compromise was that we would leave off the people from the list who didn't RSVP and/or just didn't show up.

We had made a few new friends in the year so the list was about the same length anyway. This year we have invited right around 40 people 12 of which have responded that they are going, 2 maybees, about 6 noes.. To the rest of the people who have not even looked at the dang invite, we have sent out a reminder e-mail ourselves asking everyone to view it and respond.

We are in agreement this year again that whoever doesn't respond and/or doesn't show up is left off the list for next year.

(My old boss got wind of this new practice and was sort of mad about it..) Well, show up next time!

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If they are good friends, I'd just call them up and ask them. Maybe explain that you really need a head count for your food prep.

If they are casual friends, I'd possibly mark them off for next year.

It's just plain rude to not RSVP yes or no.

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I had the same problem... I sent out a reminder a week before the party with the directions to our house... worse than people not RSVPing is the ones that say their coming but don't show.

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I agree! The complaint that seems to be floating around people we know is that we are far away. We aren't for starters.. the farthest may be 40 minutes. But even so, what is that when compared to having free alcohol and food, prizes totaling close to $100 for winners of games, and you get to play arcades and have a blast?? We go out of our way for our friend's parties and expect the same in return. My husband is pretty mad about it and doesn't want to have one next year yet again. We have spent a couple thousand dollars on this party and did last year too. To have no one come to enjoy it seems like kind of a waste. We'll see if his reminder letter works...

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That always happens to me ... This year I did "regrets only" on the invite ... so we'll see if the people who didn't call and tell me they aren't coming show up or not. My fiance and I have a weird schedule ... I work nights (3 p.m. to 2 a.m.) and he works from home, so our list of friends is pretty small. I just send an invite to everyone and hope for the best. If they don't show up, their loss. We still have a blast. Even if it's just us and our neighbors this year!

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I'm getting a couple of slackers this year who still haven't RSVP'd and the party is this weekend. I have 14 maybes. Depending on how well you know people and if they showed up in the past, you can pretty much tell who in the Maybe list would possibly come and add them to the attendee list. Majority of cases, Maybe means no.

I had what I expect to be my last RSVP email tonight. We've been exceptionally fortunate that most of the people we invited are coming (we only invited 12, small group). What might have helped is I talked up my party back in early September and asked "what are you doing October 27th?". Most people said "no clue", so I said we were having a party and said I would send them an invitation. I think by giving them a heads up, and being specific about the RSVP helped.

My husband and I are having this problem as well we have sent out 50 invites 4 have responded and like others I have seen several online and asked them and gotten no response whatsoever they have even sent me other off topic messages but refuse to answer yes or no about the party. I dont want to run out of food because people don't RSVP but show up WHy cant people just say a simple yes or no i mean really if you cant come thats ok but at least let me know

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