Thread: It Happens EVERY Year!!!!

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The party is a week from tomorrow (*gasp!*), and I've sent out invitations to over 80 people, via Facebook, e-mail and snail mail. As of today, only 22 people have responded (and eight of those were "no's"). This happens EVERY SINGLE YEAR and EVERY SINGLE YEAR it stresses me out. Why is it so difficult to RSVP? It's not like I live on a deserted island with no power, no mail service and no telephone!! Just needed to vent. Grrrr.

I always just send out a quick email or addition to my evite that requests a response because I want to make sure I have enough food and ALCOHOL. That usually entices people to respond. This year I sent out to 84 people and only 6 did not respond. Hope that helps.

I know this happened to me as well. They come up with all sorts of excuses, the favorite this year is " oh i dont think i got the mail" People are idiots sometimes.. Some wait just in case something better comes along -those types are not on my lists anymore. Id rather have a party with 15 good friends who appriciate my efforts than spend more time trying to invite people who previously didnt reply or replyed to late.

I am with you! So frustrated by lack of RSVPs and I also specifically asked for a response! The RSVP by date is tomorrow...we'll see what happens. I agree, they are waiting to see if something better comes along. Next year we will only be inviting the people who have responded. We invited about 45 people and have a grand total of 20 responses, 3 of which are "maybe". We will have a ton of fun with the people who are attending. At this point I just want to rescind the invitation to everyone else, but I know I can't really do that!

in the same boat.....Invited about 40-45 people, got 20 or so RSVP's. It's very frustrating! The way I look at it, the people who are coming will have a great night and scr** the ones that don't have the decency to at least reply. Uggh.

I also read a food related message board & this is a HOT topic!! I (and most) people just don't "get" why people don't RSVP....it's terribly vexing...

I hear ya. We actually wrote on the invitation "please please RSVP by Oct 15th (party is Oct 28) because we need to know numbers for food and alcohol. We had 6 couples reply . They were the yes's that come every year, and RSVP every year. We had invited 20 couples . I ended up phoning everyone. Their reply was "oh, sorry, I've been meaning to call" One of them - a good friend- actually told me via text that she has been invited to another one (she was all excited about mine and told me she had nothing planned when I gave it to her) So they are coming to mine "for a bit". Probably to get the free shooters and food and then move on to whatever is after. Awesome. I think I need a break from the parties. I am getting bitter.

I feel you! I have 35 people that have not told me one way or another. At least I have 20 that are coming. So it will still be good. Means I get to make less food and less drink but still have a great time!
Good luck with yours.

I'm glad to see that this is not just a Virginia problem. When did society get so RUDE?? Do the attendees not realize that I don't want to spend money on food and drink for people who are not even coming, and have tons of stuff left over? OR that I don't want to run out of food and drink if I underestimate? Too bad I can't read their minds and telepathically determine if they will be there or not SO FRUSTRATING!!!
We have started "weeding out" the non-RSVPers, too, but at this rate....there will be no one left to invite!! LOL

What ever happened to manners??

I stopped with the RSVP thing. No one does it. Even for the Facebook invite I only got 3 people to respond even though all showed. We've always had at least 75% of our guest list show anyway.