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Thanks ZombieSlayerMummy! I don't know why people don't have the courtesy to RSVP. It is hard to plan for food/drink w/o knowing how many people are gonna show up. I hope you have a great party as well!!

Originally Posted by SasyGrl31

Make the most out of it! This is your halloween, so enjoy it!!!!!

I agree with that statement! This is something I am still working on learning myself. I invite about 40 people and usually about 10-15 show. Sometimes a few less, sometimes a few more. I am a shy/antisocial person normally due to social anxiety disorder, but I love having my 3 annual parties (Vday Fondue, St. Pattys Day, and Halloween) and have been having them for almost 10 years, I still get upset when I get a lot of no's or maybe's (which usually don't show up). Right now I have 12 yeses, 15 maybes, and 12 no's...

Point being, my husband always picks on me because I get so involved in planning and decorating and cooking and making invites, when only about 10 people come, but it's really for me! Most everyone who visits halloweenforum loves throwing parties, so ENJOY! Get into it, put on some halloweeney music and pretend you're having the party of the century! Those who come, even though they may be few, will be sure to have a GREAT time if you are excited about it

All my friends know I'll be having a party (and sending invites every year) but rarely rsvp. I know most of them will show because they come year after year. Last year, we had a roaring 20's themed party and I was worried the turnout wouldn't be that good because alot of people don't care for themed parties and I didn't have many rsvp's. Boy was I wrong! I probably had 70 people if not more. This year, they all tell me they are coming and bringing along "a few" friends; so I'm planning on 100 just to be on the safe side.
Make the party fun and enjoy yourself, no matter how many show up.

wow, 100 is alot of people!!

last year we had 25 people, so this year will prolly be 35 at most (ours seem to get bigger every year bc the word reaches farther) We dont do formal invites...I just tell people and have them tell everyone else LOL it skips a major step for me, so i can focus on the party itself.

This year, there is a rival party the same day! (10-22) So i don't know what will happen, but since we've had ours for longer, and have been planning on this day since mid august, I feel like more ppl will be at mine...but u never know until the day comes. I remember telling the 5 main friends, then a week later he comes to me and says 'guess who is having their party on the same day?' I was like, OK- this has turned into a party war, and i will win. HEHE

But even if only my 5 besties come, thats my main concern. I may have leftover pizza and booze, but hey-great for sunday

I could tell you all the same things you've already heard but unfortunately I think I am relearning this lesson myself after being overly optimistic about potential attendance this year. I am trying from here on out to just plan for a smaller crowd that way I am not disappointed with the outcome either way. Then just have a good backup plan (cheap vodka in the cabinets and a couple extra bags of chips) so that way, if my initial thought was right, the extra people will be a welcome addition instead of a nightmare. Also I should note that all last minute/no rsvp-ers don't deserve better than Doritos and bottom shelf vodka.

Hilarious Star Girl Mag! Well, since then I have found out that while there isn't a rival party, the ex-friends who started this whole upheaval thing has planned a night out for adults and I suspect I may have lost one or two of things couples to it. But in the end, everyone keeps telling me those people were no friends at all and the people who are most important to me will be there & support me. Halloween is my favorite time of year and I must not let small people ruin my good time. I put entirely too much into the planning, decorating and execution to allow that. This is why I love HF, you all rally around when members have problems. Thanks again everybody!!!

We invited over 50...only 6 RSVPed and around 25 showed...Although I had hopes of a big bash 25 was plenty and we had an awesome time. Best part is after everyone else heard how great of a time everyone had I got a flood of emails explaining why they couldnt make it in hopes they would recieve an invite next year Don't stress out...its your party too...just enjoy it no matter how big or small, those that do make it will appreciate everything.

Look at it this way, those who don't show don't know what the're missing. Have a great party.