Thread: Who to invite question

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I'm fixing to send out invites to my party and like many of you... I'm a bit odd... so sometimes I don't really realize what is 'weird' to people. Just wanted some advice...

A few old friends (we were besties when I was 0-14 and our parents were/are best friends, I'm 23 now) have looked me up on facebook within the last year, usually because I've ran into them somewhere or something... I'm wanting my guest list to grow and it always seems the more the merrier.... is it weird to invite them?

I mean, we grew apart because either their parents divorced and they moved away and then high school happened... so I was never mad at them or anything... so basically, is it weird to invite people that you've had just about one-two face to face conversations with in the last 5 plus years besides talking on facebook?

Also.... my party's age range is 21-33ish... I have a really fun friend at work that has a 15 year old daughter... no idea how old she is but I know she wasn't prego really young or anything.... so I'm guessing like 40? I invited her last year and she rsvp'd yes but didn't show... she loves Halloween... should I invite her? Would you guys feel weird going to a party where most people were younger than you?

Any opinions are greatly appreciated!

I also have a wide range of ages invited to our party. Anywhere from 21 to 60 years old. My niece will be the youngest, my Mom the oldest. But in my opinion, if they want to wear a costume and come to the party, then they are looking for a fun time with all kinds of people. Not everyone will know each other and that's fine. I have a couple of games planned that will (hopefully) get people to mingle a bit and socialize with others. We have invited people that we haven't seen in 5 years, but they had always been good friends. Sometimes life gets in the way, and distance doesn't help either. Some of these people live an hour+ away from us (they will be staying over that night), so it'll be a great opportunity to see some old friends.
I think you should invite anyone you think/know may have a good time at your party, that you consider friends. To me, it doesn't matter if you saw them yesterday, or 10 years ago!

i also have a wide range of ages in friends alot of the o lder women i invite don't come because they are "too old" that is non sense we all have a wide range of aged friends no one would care how old they are ya know? i just invite anyone who i like lol and think would have a good time

At my witchy party we have all ages. At first I didn't want kids, but several of my daughter's friends brought kids last year. So, this year we are preparing for them. We will have from 6-80s potentially there. My 13 year old niece will keep the kiddos entertained with things out of our area for part of the night. This year, I invited some former students that Ihave not seen since high school. Most of them are 30s and 40s (eek that ages me) now. They have looked me up on facebook and have expressed interest in the party. So, we will see. A few of them I see occassionally. Also my daughter (29)has numerous friends who attend.

At the Boo Bash we will also have a mix of ages. Several of daughters friends usuallycome for awhile and then go on to other parties. This year her entire group of friends were included in the invite. They ususally have their own Halloween costume party, but several have just gotten married and money is tight and a couple are pregnant and don't want to host. We all end up at cookouts at our place or one of theirs or thei parents during the year, so they are excited to be apart of the Boo Bash. We also go all out decorating and they are into that.

Thanks for the advice!

I feel silly now... one of the people I was hesitant to invite seems really excited about it! Sent invites out 8 hours ago.. 5 out of 33 rsvp yes's so far!

i see no reason not to invite them. i have a friend coming to mine that i havent talked to in over 5 years. ran into her at walmart last week. lol. granted, my party is target more to teens (since its technically kiddos bday party lol) but i have several of my friends come as well, and family (my grandparents, etc) will be there. so ages 4- 70 something still wont be huge 20-30 people max but am looking forward to having a good time

Glad you decided to invite them. My though is, if it were me how would I react to an invitation to an old friend that I've lost touch with. They can either look at and go "um, I don't really know you I'm not going." OR "yay! A chance to rekindle an old friendship!" As for the age range, I am also 21 and have a similar age range but there are always a few 40 somethings in the mix as well. There is one gal who is 70ish and I thought she wouldn't want to go, she now goes every year and is one of the first people to ask when the invites are going out.

Originally Posted by star_girl_mag

Glad you decided to invite them. My though is, if it were me how would I react to an invitation to an old friend that I've lost touch with. They can either look at and go "um, I don't really know you I'm not going." OR "yay! A chance to rekindle an old friendship!"

well, thats why its an invitation and not a forced appearance lolol. they can come, or not... lol

i told my friend about it and was like hey ill send you an invite, if you want to come join us youre welcome to. it took her a few days, but she RSVPd that she was gonna swing by

i could understand hesitation if you parted on bad terms or something, but in our case we just drifted apart (she had a lot of drama in her life at that point i didnt want to be a part of)....

Our guest list last year ranged in ages from 8 to 91. We had a blast.

I say invite who you want to invite. I have always believed that when you start debate "should I or shouldn't I" with yourself the answer is "should".

We invite a wide range of people- friends, family members, & co-workers.
Then even bring their kids along & we all manage to have a good time. There is enough to see & do that we all find our favorites.