Thread: How dare you have your own party!

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From what I've read here, it sounds like most people are used to being 'the halloween party holder' among their friends. Or must be very organised at not all arranging their parties for the same dates

One of my best friends kept saying ALL night last year during our party that she wanted to do a party herself the following year. And I could hardly object because I don't have the monopoly on parties.

Then a few months ago she got pregnant and told me she's expecting on November 8th - so she'll be far too big and heavy to hold her own party. I have to admit - I'm delighted! Me and my partner adore Halloween whereas she just likes an excuse to have a party, and I'm not being horrible but I know her parties aren't as good as mine tend to be.

Anyone else ever have problems with friends deciding they want to do Halloween themselves, even though you know you're 'the' person for it? I'd never tell her how happy I am that she CAN'T do it, I'm just hoping next year she won't want to do it either because she'll have a one year-old

Really the best parties are at the biggest house assisted by the people with the biggest imaginations (as well as the ones with the biggest wallets). I consider myself an excellent party planner but I just don't have the space at my place to throw anything decent. But I do help organize a giant party held at a rented space (but the biggest problems with renting a place are the idiotic catering rules and the "no catering fee" is usually twice what the actual catering costs) and we always have a great time.

It can generate bad feelings though. A few other groups of friends in our area with a lot of overlapping people have been relatively nice about not having parties on the same weekends in October but since we're both large enough to have people come in from out of town, it comes down to "I can't afford to do both" and the other group tries to throw more money into their parties but the original one is still the bigger one.

Wow that would be a scare to me. I don't host any party but Halloween, so every one of my friends and family members know not to plan a party. Maybe I am selfish but I get a huge kick out entertaining people that night.

I love going to other people's Halloween parties! I get to pick up new ideas, don't have to pay for the food/drinks and there's no clean up the next day.

Bleh. At smaller houseparties with closer friends where a bunch of us wind up spending the night... it's way too easy to get me to start helping with the cleanup the next day Which is only polite, anyway, but I feel stupid being the only one that sticks around every time.

LOL!! That's so funny, and I'm glad that your friend's reason for not being able to have a party this year is a happy reason, otherwise there might be all kinds of icky guilt involved in your own happiness, and who needs that! Hehehe

Since Halloween is almost non-existent in Sweden, or in my part of Sweden anyway, I have had very little competition for being THE Halloween Hostess. And I'm very thankful for that. There was one girl who came to my first party (which turned out extremely lame, since hardly anybody came) and the next year she didn't come, and then the year after that she threw her own party on the same night. I was a little disgruntled about that, but not overly so, as she wasn't a close friend and had her own group of friends so none of my guests would be attending her party anyway. Besides, by then, my parties were known to be the ragers and everybody I wanted to come was coming. Hehehe

At this point, I don't think any of our friends would even THINK of trying to have a Halloween party on the same night as our party, at least I seriously hope not. I don't know what I would do! I'd be crushed! But, Halloween is starting to catch on a bit here, in fact, last year, the grade school in our town had been so inspired by our haunted house the year before last, that they made a haunted house in the school for the kiddies. I was so happy! I wish they would have asked me to help, but since I don't have kids, they probably didn't even consider it. Oh well.

I'm actually psyched because the neighbors have been asking me to help organize a kids Halloween party for the neighborhood kids this year, which will be LOTS of fun!

Sorry, got a bit off track there, but anyway, I think you totally lucked out that your friend happens to be unable to do her party at the same time, so now you have to make yours alllllll the rage so nobody will even think of attending somebody else's on the same night. lol! (I have a great game suggestion if you want to ensure a TON of fun, btw, I wish I could do the same game again this year, but now I'm racking my brain to come up with something new. Lemme know if you're interested!)

I had a really hard time deciding to throw a party this year. We have friends who typically throw THE Halloween party. So, in order to not step on toes, we planned it for the weekend before they typically throw their party and sent them a Save The Date. She was ecstatic! I was flabbergasted. Halloween is their anniversary, and her husband had asked that they not throw a party this year, and she was really down about there not being a party for our friends. So it all worked out in the end.

Sadly, some unforeseen circumstances have popped up and my budget is far less than is comfortable, but I'm still gonna try my best to out-do her. ;D

First let me just say, that if she's one of your best friends, then she should know how much you love Halloween and shouldn't be moving in on your territory like that. If she wants to throw a party too, then the polite thing to do would be to have it 2-3 weeks away from yours. If one of my closest friends tried throwing a party on the same night as mine, knowing how much I adore Halloween, I'd be quite and

With that said, I kinda sorta ALMOST had that problem last year. I'd say it was about this time last year, maybe a tad earlier, when I decided to have a Halloween party. The second I had the idea, I posted it on facebook. Almost emediately, someone commented on my post, saying she was thinking of doing one too. At that point, I really didn't "hold the torch" for Halloween parties because it was my first time throwing one. But the way I saw it was, I called it first lol. Luckily, I'm not close to this person, she's more of an acquaintance, so I really didn't care. But, I know her through some of my very close friends. So if she were to have a party the same night as mine, then these mutual friends of ours would be tworn on which party to go to. She tried getting me to change the date, but eventually she backed down....thankfully. She actually ended up coming to my party. Was going on and on all night long about what an awesome job I did, how I should do this professionaly, and that I HAVE to do this every year lol

If someone I knew deliberately had a party on the same night that I was hosting mine that would involve mutual friends, I'd be pissed too. I'd confront them with it and ask them to change the date. I like to have my party the week before Halloween so people aren't party hopping that night and this way I know I "set the bar". lol But I like to go to the parties myself on Halloween weekend.

Originally Posted by Tannasgach

If someone I knew deliberately had a party on the same night that I was hosting mine that would involve mutual friends, I'd be pissed too. I'd confront them with it and ask them to change the date. I like to have my party the week before Halloween so people aren't party hopping that night and this way I know I "set the bar". lol But I like to go to the parties myself on Halloween weekend.

Totally. Another thing that burns me is when they have a party and the decorations are boring, cutesy and not at all cool. Its more like a "get together," if you don't have elaborate decorations. Another thing is when only a few people show up, that's how you know you won't stay long and everyone else went to the other "better" party haha.