Thread: a Thankyou from MoonStarling & Family..& MORE

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first of all THANKS to all of you....now we talk

there is soo much I have learned.... I can't go into it ALL tonight...

But I will tell you right now, they are all sitting around me watching "Starsky & Hutch" eating tacos and life is somewhat Normal... this feels incredible, especially since last week at this time, we were BOTH scared to death with surgery scheduled in the AM


I scored Larr a great Lazy Boy recliner at the thrift store today...cost me 10...20 more to deliver it, it's an ugly color but great shape

I have been running since 7am. Funny how your house seems filthy after you have spent a WEEK in a hopsital---

I truly believe out of bad-- good things come, you just have to take the time to LOOK and LISTEN--

I have met some phenomenaly strong people at the hospital, I have learned to listen to complete strangers and FEEL their pain & compassion, I have learned that every SUNRISE means there is HOPE--

I watched a family lose a 36 yr old mother, who was in need of a new heart and leave a 10yr old son behind.
Think what I was going thru was bad, nothing compared to this family--- I watched another complete stranger walk over and hand that Mother of this girl something she made for her while her OWN husband was having a tough time in recovery.

I met a woman whose husband has been in CVICU for 3 weeks..he can't seem to breathe on his own--they can't get him OFF the ventilator--I cried with her...because as she told me she was happy for me that we were going home, she burst into tears.--

I met some really cool FBI guys that showed me the cool smoking section with the soda and snack machines...they guard Federal Prisoners ALOT at the heart institute.....

I watched DOCTORS--top leading HEART SURGEONS in the country PRAY over patients before surgery and the nurses in CVICU sit praying OVER patients after surgery..and I thought, they are so close to death every single day, do they **KNOW** something we all don't?
I thought this was pretty cool....

I met another woman the evening Larr had come out of surgery, SHE was my angel...had to be about 70 sat on a bench next to me and said, "HONEY watcha in for"--gruff, honory and strong she was... told me NOt to worry as she lit a smoke, had her FIRST bypass in 75, peice of cake....

NURSES---they are God's Angel's yeah they get paid well, they earn every single penny they get. ....

That is the ICING on my cake....

maybe during this 6 weeks of recovery when I can sit down and actually write out, everything that happened I will--but you guys get this for now---

EVERY FREAKIN day we are given is special..don't ever forget that---always take time to listen, live, and learn, especially to people we DON'T KNOW-- because complete strangers can be so very interesting.

People need people-- they REALLY, really do....

I have learned I will never say to anyone, "If you need anything call" I will JUST DO for them what ever my heart tells me they need.....because people are too STRONG to ask for help no matter how much they need it (yeah include me here) but sure as hell are grateful when someone shows they care


I have learned my friends who I have never met in real time can be one HELL OF A SUPPORT SYSTEM even tho all we have is this box to communicate--oh yeah that an TEXT MESSAGING, hehehehehehe as they pass on to my forums--- The PIT and HAlloweenforum.com how things are coming along

and I thank God for text messaging, the internet, cellular phones to keep in touch with my life long friends that live miles from me--from where we all started back in our teens long ago


OMG!!!! Coming out of the hospital Saturday, getting in the car and HEARING MUSIC-- how much I missed music--- to the point even Gab said, Mom turn it down, heheheheehh!!!

Broken Wings by Alter bridge made my cry tonight---Creed made me cry harder I MISS Stapp-- egotistical ass he is, dam that VOICE it is hypnotizing to some--me being one!

I also have to say before I sign out here there was nothing MORE comforting then coming home reading my boards and reading my mail.....You guys ARE more support system.

We had 2 people that were not family visit us in the hospital--one was my friend Lisa from the restaurant who drove over 2 hours to come check on ME (she lives in Orlando) and the other was A guy Larr works with--BILL---

so between your calls & e-mails, text messages, I LOVE you very much...

now I see what I can learn in the NEXT 6 weeks, right?

<center>"You sick f***s, you've seen one too many movies." -Sidney
"Now Sid, dont you blame it one the movies. Movies don't make psycho's, movies make psycho's a little more creative." -Billy </center>

Moon,
As I've said in a previous post,I am a floral designer in a small town , people say "I'd love to have your job,it must be so fun" to which I quickly reply "You've gotta have a strong stomach and nerves of steal to do this sorta thing and remind them 90% of my business is funeral work,this means dealing with greiving family members,husbands who lose their wifes who took care of everything for them,children whose just lost their moms,wifes who just lost the only man they've ever loved and so many senerios, too many,I've done friends from schools funerals,my own family members,life time friends of the family,and the sweetest angels of all..baby's,
Each and everyone give us stories and bits of their lives,we cry with them,for them, and because of them.I take all this home with me their emotions,their memories,their regrets,and wrap my arms around my family and tell them the things that need to be said and give that little extra time to matters even when I think I'm to tired.
My point is as a hazard of duty I know exactly how you feel,and have learned the same as you have ,
"No matter how bad things are ,they could always be worse,Thank God every day for those who are in your life and stop wishing for things you don't have and thank him/her for what you do have.
I honestly believe we are on this earth to live and Learn from each and every thing/person/situation,
and take it in and live on it.
I'm not afraid of death,I've seen it ,touched it and have done flowers for it!!,I'm afraid of not understanding the next journey and or not preparing my family for it,
SO,in closing,Moon I'm happy you took more than your husband home
love back atcha babe
isis11571

See Isis,

I had faith that at SOMEONE here would GET IT....you did

Somehow I knew at least some one would take the time to read the post and respond and UNDERSTAND

have a great day and thanks!!!

<center>"You sick f***s, you've seen one too many movies." -Sidney
"Now Sid, dont you blame it one the movies. Movies don't make psycho's, movies make psycho's a little more creative." -Billy </center>

Moon Many of us will read your post and many will understand it but not all will know how to respond to it.

Few of us probably know about the kindness of strangers as many people nowadays are all about themselves. There are still a few of us out there that believe in being kind to everyone that they can. One of the hardest things you can do in life is to be going through a personal tragedy yourself and realize that someone sitting there with you may have it worse off than you and that you just speaking with them for 20 minutes might make all of the difference in the world.

When people are going through something like life saving surgery on a loved one, all they can think about is how many things can go wrong and it is almost impossible to think of everything that can go right. It gets hard to remember that the people who are doing the surgery are doing everything they can to make sure that the outcome is a positive one. In this world, we tend to concentrate more on the negative than we do the positive. This is especially seen when it comes to our favorite holiday. Most people just see the negatives associated with Halloween and don't see that for many people in this world, it is a holiday and a positive one at that and not something exclusively associated with death and satan.

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excellent post dude, really...wow [image]http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung0304/liebe/love-smiley-024.gif[/image]

<center>"You sick f***s, you've seen one too many movies." -Sidney
"Now Sid, dont you blame it one the movies. Movies don't make psycho's, movies make psycho's a little more creative." -Billy </center>

Moon I do understand where your coming from. My mom was in the hospital a few years back when an aneurism burst in her brain. I thought I lost my mom that next day when my brother and I found her. The nurses and even strangers were so supportive. What was really hard, even after seeing tubes coming out of my mom's head, was that after her surgery for about a month my own mother did not know who I was. I had to rely on the support of the medical staff and again strangers to get me through it because I was there most of the time alone due to her living in Ocala and me and my brother in Jacksonville. So I to have heard the stories and even entertained small children so that their mother could spend time with their father before he went into surgery. The understanding and extreme support from all the officers here, even ones that I have never met. I'm not even going to get into the stories that I have heard from working here. I am sorry that I have been away for so long but I have been sick and just have not been wanting to get on to the computer. I have been wanting to get on here and find out how ya'll were doing and I am really glad to hear that everything is better. Tell him to take it easy and not to over do it, but if he's like me he won't listen anyways so you'll just have to make him. Have truly been lucky in my life, I have come close to death, I have only lost 1 grandparent and an uncle. I really don't know what else to say except that if you think you have it bad just remeber someone in this world has it worst. So Moon again I am glad that he was able to come home. may they watch over your family.

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Moon-

Thank you for sharing those stories. You have given me that wake up call that we all need every once and a while to better appreciate the people in my life.
I don't think we ever intentionally take people for granted, we just become comfortable with the way things are and don't take into consideration how quickly things can change and someone can be taken away from us.


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As I sit here reading your post, I realize how right you are, Moon. I can only hope that everyone who read it will take away from it as much as I did. You are truly an inspirational woman and I am glad to have met you in these forums.

BlackRose

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You are completely right, Moon. When my BIL was recovering in the hospital he shared a room with this older fellow - I can't remember what he was in for off hand. But his family was there often and did a lot of talking with my family. They came back long after their sibling was out of the hospital - and gave my BIL a card and donation. It's just amazing how complete strangers can come together when times are hard. People can be wonderful!

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