Thread: Is this in Bad taste

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I wanted some feedback before I make myself look like an a-hole. Would it be in bad taste to go toa real cemetary and ask for the wreaths and flowers before they throw them away after a funeral? Part of me says it would be and another says it would be fine.

I would say asking would be in bad taste; but dumpster diving when nobody's around would be acceptable. Call me superstitious, but that's a lot of bad mojo man – better stick to spray painting/distressing fake flowers.

Tough call. I wouldn't ask the mourners, of course, but a word to the sexton (groundskeeper, gravedigger) would be OK, IMO. I actually have an arrangement with the groundskeeper at a nearby cemetery to have him stash the rotted-off wooden gravemarkers for me in the back of the graveyard. I check in about once every 3 months, and if any of the old crosses have fallen down, he's put them in the back for me. At first he was skeptical, but I told him that I'd be using them in a Halloween display, and not in a disrepectful manner. Now I have 6 nicely aged, authentic grave markers in my display.

I wouldn't do it. Hold out and wait for a few others to respond before you make up your mind.

THere is an old saying. "Advice is what we ask for when we know the answer...but wish we didn't."

I'd agree...bad taste to ask...but a little dumpster dive....go for it!

IMHO ..I don't think that flower arrangements are scary. Now dead flowers..different story. But if you are going the trouble of spray painting flower arrangements best to make something that will last a lot longer.

I would not ask...would rather dumpster dive for the dead ones, but ideally make my own.

I'm going to a funeral tomorrow. I'll ask the funeral director and let you know.

It is bad tatse if you dont play right. First keep a low profile around people that have just lost a loved one then ask the funeral director and say i dont wanna sound morbid or anything then ask him or her if you can have stuff like that for what ever reason you need. Most likely they will understand and not see you as a freak. People work at funeral homes have most likely heard and seen it all so....But like i said would keep it between you and the funeral home. You dont want to kick the door in and yell hey can i have that!?!

I think if asked correctly should be fine.

How about, instead of asking for the ones from funerals, asking for the ones people put on graves throughout the year? I know that after a while the groundskeeper throws them away, plus they'd already be authentically aged/weathered for you!

You know who throws that stuff away? Its not the mourners or the funeral director...its the poor sap who's out there mowing the lawn for $7 an hour. They just gather up the dead stuff and throw it away. Go ask the grounds keepers and I guarantee they won't care.