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of putting Memorial Tombstones in our graveyard of Loved Ones That have Passed on. Done in good taste of course. as a way to remember them.

ANY opinion welcome !! Thanks

I see it as bad luck but im very superstitious.

Originally Posted by Toetag

I see it as bad luck but im very superstitious.

Bad Luck for who?
I know people that have made their own Headstones that that would be back Luck,

Its funny sometimes what our passion for Halloween results in Blinky. I just recently got blown away by some of my Chicago family about my Halloween passion. Ya see a couple of years ago there was a bit of a threat to me that If I did not agree to let a relative remove & sell the lots my parents were buried in there would be hell to pay. AT 1st I was horrified as I had buried both my parents there & my Mom & I selected that stone when my Dad died, it was a dual stone with both their names on it.

To make a long story short I was on the edge of getting threatened to be taken to court to do this as the relative claimed the graves were hers now that my Grandmother who had purchased them had passed away. We had 6 plots there, one for each of us. The change of moving all the deceased in those plots was a new mauseleum was built in the cemetery and my relative purchased 9 slots for all of us and was paying to have all the dead buried there exhumed and put in the mauselum. The dilema was that even tho she had control over the plots she still had to have my signature on legal documents to exhume my parents bodies.

It was a pretty upsetting time for me as I thought it was ridiculous and its tough, ya know you put your parents in the ground , you were there the day they were laid to rest & I just wanted them to stay there. The thought of digging them up after all this time I hated it. Plus their new resting place was on the ceiling of this huge mauseleum that has 100 crypts.

So to avoid court which I know it would have come to that I went ahead & signed the papers.
Now just the other day on a phone call w/ this very relative something got mentioned about me not visiting the cemetery while I was home during a visit. I expressed that I just could not bring myself to go there now that my parents were dug up. I could not believe what she said to me next......My halloween decorations & the fictional story I have written for my haunt on my web site all got thrown in my face like I was some freak. What was wrong w/ me that I could find fun in building coffins with dead people in them & write the way I do and I was trying to say I had trouble going to the cemetery.

For the sake of PEACE I kept my mouth shut ...but it really bugged me that she would try to make some comparision between my halloween fun & the death & burial of my parents. At that moment I decided I would no way no more share my halloween passion with her. I have a very liberated family or so I thought. I mean they go to ghost stuff all the time and visit all the haunted attractions during the holiday.

SO Blinky beware of what others may say...cause ya never know!!lol

Muf

Well let's see....friends and family who come by your haunt would of course recognize the names on your memorials....have any of them been particularly upset about a loved one's passing, or do they seem at peace with it? My dad's passing has effected me most of anyone in my family.....I'm only at peace with him not suffering anymore--if a memorial were made for him by another relative, I'd probably be upset. I mean, definitely not to the point of crying or believing they made it with anything other than good intentions you see, but...just, inwardly bothered. But that's probably just the case with my dad...seeing any other family featured in a haunt memorial probably wouldn't make an impression like that.

Originally Posted by RBC

Bad Luck for who?
I know people that have made their own Headstones that that would be back Luck,

The person that made it. People are just supposed to have one tombstone. Its just the way i feel about it. OH! Please dont put a name of something alive on a stone....I guess im just a odd ball.

If I die, I would find it pretty cool if someone did that, and make a point of haunting the hell out of the yard on Halloween night.

Course, ideally, they'll donate my skeletal remains to a haunter somewhere...

And no sending damn flowers to any funeral. Carved pumpkins.

Maybe I'm not the best person to ask this...

Muffy I know what you are saying: I still have My Moms ashes here at the house. I made her a very pretty urn Angel That No One Knows I made. to store her remains in.
My Family also gave me grieve when she passed because she had no insurance to pay for the funeral and I knew she wanted to be cremated so I did it. None of my **** brothers or sisters would help pay for the cost. but that didnt surprise me they did the same thing when dad Passed.
I am ashamed to say I have brothers and sisters. all 13 of the *** creeps!!
I just thought to would be a nice thing to do, Guess not

Muffy: I so sorry you had to go through all that, I would have told her to stuff it sideways..

Originally Posted by Toetag

The person that made it. People are just supposed to have one tombstone. Its just the way i feel about it. OH! Please dont put a name of something alive on a stone....I guess im just a odd ball.

dont worry i would never do that TT

Blinky, Halloween is whatever YOU make it. If you feel good about putting their names on stones, then go for it. The people who would have a problem with it are the people who have a hard time finding peace with things that they can't explain. You can't live your life to please those people. So, I say "CARVE AWAY"!!!