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This is my first year I plan on doing some real decorating for Halloween so I've been planning everything, getting everything ready ahead of time, making crafts etc. Only problem is my hubbie isn't really as enthusiastic as I am about it. Every time I want to go look at props or lights of even go check out the Halloween section in walmart he sighs really dramatically and tells me 'You're would be obsessed. It's not even October yet." Kinda bums me out cause just I think it's all for fun and for the kids. It makes me happy. Does anyone else have this issue???

I'm sure there's some activity of his you don't understand as well. Just remind him of it...

Or don't drag him along shopping. My wife doesn't get into Halloween like I do. That's fine, I don't get into the little scrapbooks, and beads, and silly little hair thingys she makes. I don't drag her to the Halloween store, she don't drag me to the scrapbook store/convention. Works out great.

100% yes my wife is not that thrilled with me doing all the halloween planning, shopping, carfting ...ect, but you know what I have a blast doing it and the kids love it.

I did... but not anymore

My husband has accepted his fate... he now buys me props... is helping make my props... and is even doing my lighting

After a couple of successful halloweens or a couple of years seeing how happy halloween makes you... your husband will probably change his mind too!

My husband got on board after we outlined how much of our resources we would spend to celerbrate.

Your husbands attitude may indicate that he is worried about the time, money, and/or energy that goes into celebratingHalloween....

You should talk to him about it.... especially if his comments or attitude is hurting you

My husband was the same way. When I said I wasn't going to decorate or have a party this year, he said "You have to do something ....". He acts like he is being tortured, but he enjoys helping to decorate the outside.

It took me 8 years before my husband finally accepted my obsession...I mean hobby. His biggest resistance though was that he thought I should not be trying to build props if I didn't know what I was doing, or have a blueprint and a list of parts with which to build it. Plus the amount of room our props occupy. I use to always complain about his hobby, which occupied most of our garage. When he would complain about mine I would point out that his hobby was all over the place, and cost about 4 times what mine does. The more he began to accept mine the more I gave into his. We have now worked up to the point where I sometimes take part in his hobby with him, and he sometimes helps me with mine. Even goes shopping with me now, and suggests things I might like or need. It is all a matter of give and take, and trying to appreciate what makes the other person happy or relaxed.

Originally Posted by UnOrthodOx

I'm sure there's some activity of his you don't understand as well. Just remind him of it...

Or don't drag him along shopping. My wife doesn't get into Halloween like I do. That's fine, I don't get into the little scrapbooks, and beads, and silly little hair thingys she makes. I don't drag her to the Halloween store, she don't drag me to the scrapbook store/convention. Works out great.

yep...it really is that simple

Originally Posted by propmistress

I did... but not anymore

My husband has accepted his fate... he now buys me props... is helping make my props... and is even doing my lighting

After a couple of successful halloweens or a couple of years seeing how happy halloween makes you... your husband will probably change his mind too!

Similar thing here. It took one good Halloween bash for my wife to show off her culinary skills (her hobby) and while she doesnt participate in props making she does get excited about the event.

My DH isn't into Halloween either. He understands that I'm going to be decorating and making things, but doesn't get involved. I don't drag him along on my shopping excursions either. He does enjoy hearing people comment when they like the display and he seems to enjoy mingling with the folks at the chili party open house I put on. So as long as we have this understanding, its all good.

My husband is halfway there. He loves everything Halloween, but he doesn't understand why all of a sudden I'm obsessed with it. I always have been, but we never had the money for me to do everything I want. Now that I'm making my own props, and my neighbors are helping with the haunted cemetery, I can do a lot more. He's still looking at things with me, but gets annoyed when I leave a project out. I'm currently forbidden to start anything new until the 3 paper mache projects and coffin I have started are done. I do one paper mache a night, and because of the humidity here, Have to wait two days for it to dry completely, so it's timed out perfect. Anyways, I'm starting to sense a bit more resentment from him when I start babbling about the next thing I want to do, or see something I can upcycle to a Halloween prop