Thread: I'm disgusted....

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Okay, so my obnoxious cousin is staying for a while at my home. She had the audacity to play with a ball in the yard, making a game out of knocking down my tombstones. It's bad enough that the freakin' wind blows them down but she has to come along with her blue ball and purposely knock them down like bowling pins, shouting "Tombstone, 10 points!"

Normally, I wouldn't care, seeing as a few of them I could go to Target and replace, but a few of them I can't find anymore unless I search on eBay and pay 4 times as much than what I originally paid. It irritates me when there's not really any vandals in your neighborhood, but if there's one staying with you, that's another kettle of fish.

I tried talking to her about this matter, but as I'm tyoing this, she wants to argue and bicker (which is not my thing) saying that she wants my attention.
I'm at the point where I'm going to scream so loud that my vocal cords will be burned out for a loooooong time.

What else can I do without getting myself sent to the big house? I am SO pissed right now, sorry for my language. I know this may seem like a petty issue, seeing as it's only tombstones, not something huge, but I'm still pretty miffed nevertheless.

I understand you being upset and irritated, I would be too. Heck, you're handling yourself better than I would.
You have invested a lot of money in your decorations, and it is NO ONE'S right to harm them in any way.
I would just try talking to her again. Maybe over ice cream or something? That way it doesn't seem so serious to her, AND you will be spending some time with her, which is what she seems to want in the first place. Let her know that this is really bothering you, and if she were to break one of them, you would put her to work to buy a new one!
Hope this helps and good luck.

If you want my advice I would burn her to death.

It's like we used to do in the olden times. She can't mess up your tombstones if she's charred to ashes, maybe then she'll learn!

Hope my humour above helps you out just for 2 minutes. On a more serious note, how frustrating. I have been preparing for months now for my 2nd halloweenfest party, and I would be seriously annoyed if any of my guests (let alone those who were staying with me) decided to screw things up for me.

I think consequences are in order for your cousin, so explain that if she knocks a tombstone over, there'll be something she'll have to give up as a consequence.

So, how old is this cousin?

I agree with memamu, there need to be consequences for these actions. Be the adult and let her know that her behavior is out of line, and that she can expect to lose whatever privileges she has in your home during her visit if this continues. Not to knock one of your family members, but this kid sounds spoiled rotten, and has some moderate issues if she resorts to acting out like that to get attention.

BTW, what are her parents doing about their little angel?

Wow is this a child you are dealing with or an adult? Very disrespectful behavior. If it's a child you have make consequences that you follow through with, if it's an adult I'm at a loss because the adults I know don't act that way. Can you involve her in the decorating somehow so she has your attention, you're spending time together and most important you can keep an eye on her?

How old is she?

If she's staying with you, she's a guest (family or not) and intentionally damaging your stuff is grounds for kicking her out... and making her pay for the damage.

Every time she'd holler "tombstone, 10 points" I'd be like "yup, and another $25 you are going to pay me."

If she's under 18, tell her parents to come get her and any money she's got (part time job or allowance) is going to go towards replacing your property. If she's over 18, she STILL needs to be kicked out and tell her she needs to come up with money and personally, I'd make sure to steer clear of her in the future unless she apologizes sincerely and at least TRIES to make it right.

It doesn't matter that they are Halloween props. If she deliberately started tossing glassware, toys or other items in your house around and breaking them, and gave attitude when being called on it, then SOMEONE needs to see that is completely unacceptable.

She is taking advantage of you and acting like a spoiled brat. That is disgusting at any age.

Just so you guys know, she's 12, and she says that I ruined the Halloween spirit by being enthusiastic about it almost all year to the point there's "no surprises."

I will give her a good talking to. MAybe on that faithful night, I'll let revenge have it's way by scaring the bejeepers out of her. That's how I get my payback. >

Yikes 12? Definitely old enough to know better. I would tell her every time she messes with your stuff you get to mess with something of hers and I would actually do it (I'm a mom who believes in follow through). She have a cellphone? Hide it. Does she have a favorite shirt,doll,book, etc.....hide it. I know it's petty but I also know my daughter behaves as well as she does because she knows I'm not a pushover, I do what I say and I say what I mean. Yes she has learned from experience. I know she's not your child but if she is staying with you she has to learn boundaries. A 12 year old breaking your things and rough housing with them is totally unacceptable and the sooner you teach her this the better off you'll both be. My favorite thing to tell my daughter is that I was not put on this earth to take crap from a 12 year old (or anyone younger than me for that matter).

12 huh? Well old enough to know not to damage someone else's property. She owes you an apology first and money to replace them second. Then I'd stop talking to her about halloween. She's told you loud and clear that she's had enough. Acknowledge that to her and let her bring up any halloween plans or props you are doing. Not everyone is as into this as we are here and you have to respect that too. It's really a shame that she's taken her anger out on you in this manner, but not sure what to expect from a 12 year old.

I am accepting to what others think about Halloween. It's just I guess she comes when I'm busy doing something Halloween related. BTW, nothing was broken except for a tombstone I broke on purpose (Like a member on here did before) so no harm no foul.