Thread: how do i handle bestfriend/neighbor?:mad:

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I have a serious problem and need help finding a solution.

My neighbor happens to be my best friend, has owned several different dogs over the past few years. Never fails that her dogs come into my yard and destroy my property. Garden hoses, shoes, flowers, pool floats, etc...

I have repeatedly spoken nicely, mad, easy going, pissed off, etc.. about her dogs tearing my stuff up in the past, then Two days ago, I went and hung up 5 skeleton props in my fruit trees out behind my house, outside of the fence. This morning I was leaving for town and happen to drive past her house (we share a circle drive) and there is one of my skeleton heads in her yard, destroyed.

I texted her to let her know that once again her dogs have chewed something of mine her response was, we can't afford a fence, and we are not chaining our dogs up, DEAL WITH IT. oooo I wanted to deal with them all right..

If she was any type of friend, knowing that I LIVE for halloween, she would keep her dogs on her property, and not let them destroy my things.

So what do I do? Calling the local sheriff dept will piss her off and we will no longer be on speaking terms, thus ending our friendship. Shooting the dogs is inhuman, taking the dogs to the humane shelter is not my job (nor am I able to pick these 2 dogs up), or just ignore the problem, let it keep happening, continue to loose money, be pissed off and not have a halloween event this year, because my stuff will continue to be more destroyed.

Given her response to you, the last thing I would be worried about is keeping her as a friend. A true friend would not be so flip and would make an effort to correct the problem. I'd call animal control. I'm certain most municpalities have leash laws and free roaming dogs are not allowed. Sounds like you've made the effort, now turn it over to the authorities.

idk about anyone else but that doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. i would call the police or animal control to do something about it.

your losing money and your neighbor doesn't seem to care, and if you dont want to call animal control tell her that if her dogs keep chewing on your stuff and they get sick, it wont be your responsibility

If you value her as a friend put your own fence up....Explain to her it's not to block her friendship but her dogs from destroying your Halloween items.....It's a shame she won't do the responsible thing with her dogs and keep them in the house....That's where they belong, not left outside,chained up,etc.....ZR

yeah i agree with dogman. I would call the police. They at least can give her a warning. Or call animal control. I mean its your property that's being destroyed. i'm sure if it was the other way around she wouldn't think twice to call the cops on you about it. Don't let her get way with it . You've told her several times to watch her dogs and she hasn't complied now you have to take matters into your own hands.

NO BODY MESS WITH HALLOWEEN !!!!

Originally Posted by ZombieRaider

If you value her as a friend put your own fence up....Explain to her it's not to block her friendship but her dogs from destroying your Halloween items.....It's a shame she won't do the responsible thing with her dogs and keep them in the house....That's where they belong, not left outside,chained up,etc.....ZR

I respectfully disagree. Why is it GP's responsibility to erect a fence at her own expense? The responsibility here lies with the pet owner. That would be the same as me asking my neighbors to put up fences to keep my dog out of their yards because I don't want to contain them. If you can't keep a pet responsibly, don't keep one.

(LOL - I was taking forever typing - didn't see all the other responses until I finished mine...)

Ditto what others have said. That's not much of a true friendship, if she doesn't even care what her dogs are doing to your belongings. It would be a little different if she was concerned & upset over it too, and was *trying* to figure out a solution, but it sounds like she doesn't care at all about the situation.

That's not safe for those poor dogs either. I don't know how far they roam - if they only get in immediate neighbors yards or wander further - but they could get into harmful situations running loose like that. If she truly cared about her dogs, she would see to it that they were safely kept in her own yard. I don't agree w/ chaining animals either - but if she wants to keep a pet, then she needs to take responsible care of it & put up a fence or keep the dogs indoors. If she can't afford to provide a safe suitable environment for the animals, then she shouldn't have them in the first place.

For both your own sake, and for the well-being of the dogs, I'd call animal control too - hopefully the poor dogs would get a new home w/ responsible owners who would take proper care of them. Even IF they don't find a new home, at least they won't get hit by a car, or poisoned (accidentally or deliberately), or shot at, or any of a number of other harmful things that could happen to them running loose like they are now.

if she was your TRUE friend she would understand and deal with the problem and she is not doing that .....sad but thats reality here .

do you really have money to waist and spend to replace what to you are valuable items for something you love doing ?

is sitting down with her and telling her AGAIN do something with your dogs or friend or not next time i am calling police or local shelter and have a report that the dogs destroy your proprety and that she as been asked to do something and as done nothing and that this is a reapeated offence from her dogs ....that will probably end your friendship when police is called i hope you know that but here is my saying again if she was a TRUE friend she would have listened and help solved the problem.

it doesnt need to be a very expensive fence , fence can be paid by both parties , fenced runs for dogs are also cheaper .....

but if you chose to stay silent and tolerate having your stuff ripped appart thats you paid for by a dog thats not yours , your a bigger person then i am because i would not tolerate that .

just my 2 cents

I'm sorry to hear about that. As your best friend, you would think that she would know that Halloween props are cherished items, regardless of whether or not they're store bought, home-made, plain old bluckies, etc. Unfortunately, I don't have any real good suggestions for you. You're kind of between a rock and a hard place. What about an anonymous neighborhood complaint? I'd be tempted to dye the dogs or duct tape some Halloween related item to their head and send them home. It's not your fault they came into your yard and got into the paint/poop/mustard/insulation/anything that smells or stains. What about some sort of temporary fencing - maybe electric? Sorry I'm not more helpful.

She doesn't sound like she values your friendship as much as you do. I'd have to call the authorities, you can't keep taking on the loses because she won't do the right thing.