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Halloween is still a GO
Have had a very stressful year...my dad was very sick all year and things began to get worse with his health. He passed away on July 23, 2008....
I told my husband Halloween would have to be quiet this year as would the rest of the holidays. Things would not be the same without him, as he was such a big part of all of our lives. I told hubby that the kids would just have to understand this year.
But....
I was asked to go to the Dollar Store to pick up some tins for the food for after the funeral and I opened the door to the store to find a ton of Halloween decor out. Generally that doesnt happen this early.
I simply looked to the heaven's and said...."OK Dad...the party will go on...."
I know the feeling Dustee. I lost my father years ago and it's really about what you feel he's trying to tell you. I've had many times where I felt that my dad was trying to tell me something, or trying to lean me in one direction versus another in an important decision. If seeing Halloween decor in a certain store far earlier than normal gives you that feeling, I say go with it. There is no right answer for when it's no longer too soon or how much to decorate. You do what feels right, whether it's nothing, or going all out, more than you ever have in the past.
And I also want to express my condolences for your incredible loss. For me, after 7 years it still hurts, but I've accepted the reality of it. You will have your own time table for dealing with your loss. Best wishes for you and your whole family.
Dustee I know what you are going through I lost my father almost 22 years ago now, it still doesn't seem that long ago. He died in December so Christmas was a somber one. But we went on and had our celebration. The living must go on living. Halloween is a time to honor and remember those who have gone before us. Make this Halloween special, add something in rememberance of him, something he would have enjoyed or something about him that brought you joy.
My deepest heartfelt condolences.
Dustee, sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I lost my brother Feb. 1, so I kinda know what your going thru. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Dustee, please accept my sympathy for your loss. You do whatever feels right to you, and remember your Halloween friends will hold you close in their hearts.
You have my deepest sympathies and you and your family are in my prayers.
I know what you mean I lot my mother on August 16 2003. That year was a toss up tpo decorate or not choose to decorate since mom always helped me and loved the kids excitement etc
The neighbors were surprised we did deocorate. We planted a tree in her memory when she died . I decorate that tree with ghost deocrations, because we have a fond memory of deocrating and a wayward ghost got away, We were hanging ghost in a tree and was holding a treelimb down the tree limb got away and the ghost went flying over the top of the tree and she laughed til she cried I loved that. and every year think of that memory when decorating
sadly lightening hit that tree this year and had to cut it down
As with each of the other posts, I am very sorry for your loss. I'm not one to normally express this to people, especially those on a forum. But when I read your post I felt compelled to do so. I am a police officer, and on Oct. 30th 2001 my best friend died after receiving an injury in 9/11. Needless to say, Halloween just wasn’t the same. I also run a pro haunt and I refused to open for the last two nights of the season. It wasn’t until one of our actors presented me with this verse that I agreed to proceed. I’m not sure why, but it worked. We did honor him at the front door and took a collection for his family.
I only hope that these words give you the spirit to continue when you start feeling down.
Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
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Halloween is still a GO
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