Thread: canceled campground haunt, am so depressed!

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My hubby canceled the 2nd campground haunt. With out going into detail, I helped out my kid, with something he didn't (dh) want me too, I shouldn't have, but well, I did.It pissed Dh off so bad, that he canceled our reservations to the park, and put the 5th wheel away for the winter. He knew just what would hurt the most, take away the haunt, that's the one that meant the most to me,has the most history for me. I packed the stuff away, I am depressed in general. Maybe in a few days I will feel somewhat better, and will set at least some up here at home. Maybe if I do it, just being with my stuff will make me feel better. He also canceled the internet for the end of the month, so I will have to go to the library, or sons plave to get on the forum, will miss my daily fix of halloween. I will just be going to the libray a whole lot more!

Sorry but I'm having a hard time understanding why dh has so much control over you. Ok, so he's pissed at what you did but what you wrote makes him sound like an angry father punishing a child by taking away an activity and internet. Don't you have a part in the decision making process? I can see him saying that because of what you did that he's not in the mood to do the camp haunt but to just cancel it....wow. And what does the internet have to do with anything that you did? What gives him the right to just cancel that without discussing it first.
Forget the library, if I were you I'd just order the internet again from other company. If you don't have the money for it, let me know and I'll lend you some.

MsM

thats really mean!

That sounds really bad, and we know how much you have looked forward to this. Hope you two can work it out.

Originally Posted by MsMeeple

Sorry but I'm having a hard time understanding why dh has so much control over you. Ok, so he's pissed at what you did but what you wrote makes him sound like an angry father punishing a child by taking away an activity and internet. Don't you have a part in the decision making process? I can see him saying that because of what you did that he's not in the mood to do the camp haunt but to just cancel it....wow. And what does the internet have to do with anything that you did? What gives him the right to just cancel that without discussing it first.
Forget the library, if I were you I'd just order the internet again from other company. If you don't have the money for it, let me know and I'll lend you some.

MsM

thanks for saying this! i don't have to type so much.

i'm a husband and i could never fathom punishing my wife. Being disappointed, angry, or hurt sure. but we'd talk about it and no one would get punished. in fact i'm sure she'd try to leave if i acted like that!

I have to admit this does sound a bit messed up. He's punishing you as if you were a child here, and not a partner in an equal relationship. I'm trying to be supportive when i say this, not insulting, but it sounds like your problems are much worse than something anyone here could help you out with. I mean it's basically domestic abuse, however you wanna look at it.

But like i said, that's way too personal for us strangers to be getting into. I don't know what your relationships like obviously, but can you not sit down and talk to him, tell him he's being completely unrational and that you ARE going to the park whether he wishes to come with you or not, and your also buying the internet again. Your a person with your own free will and choices, and to let someone just take away your joys and make you depressed without thinking "Um, i don't think so" and standing up for yourself is just hard for me to understand.

Anyway like i said trying to be as supportive as a stranger can. Hope you work it out.

wow. here is my prospective as a loving husband. I can understand getting mad but sounds like there are others problems at work here that we don't know about. its not about the fact that he took away Halloween its about the idea that he took away anything without any sort of input from you. now with that said it also sounds as if you have done something that you knew he did not want to happen. without details we can never pass judgment on either of you but it seems as though there is a serious lack of communication. without proper communication sadly my guess is this is not the first of this sort of incident and if not corrected it wont be the last.

like its been said...we don't know the details; but hang in there and know that we'll miss you until you're back. sometimes its hard for our spouses to put their arms around our passions, sounds like yours is definitely having a hard time. you are an important part of this group and we look forward to you coming back SOON!

Hubby sounds like a control freak!

Bethene, sorry to hear about the rough times you're having. I'd have to agree with everyone in that this doesn't sound healthy at all. It sounds very hurtfull. I would go ahead with the home haunt the way you like it... and if he doesn't like it "oh well" it is your place too. It does sound like you need to talk it out but i know it's gonna be hard with those kind of actions... I wish you all the best and I hope it all goes smoothly... hugs from a "stranger"...suz