Thread: Not being into H-ween or scary things?

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How do you guys handle if your significant other isn't into your Halloween passion?

This Friday I was talking to my bf trying to get him to go see Halloween with me and his response.."why would I want to sit there and be miserable and bored? I'd keep looking at my watch wondering when it was going to be over?"

That really upset me. I really despised him there for a bit. How could someone not be interested in seeing a classic horror flick? How could it not get the blood flowing? It's like I can't even comprehend it.

At least I've been able to get him more into the holiday. he likes to dress up and he usually helps me w/ decoration set up. But he hates scary movies and haunted houses.

I say he's just a big scaredy cat! How does one handle that?

You find another boyfriend. Part of being a SO is to force your way thru crap you hate.

:-)

Seriously, the only answer is to find a compromise somewhere. Maybe you go see a movie he likes, but you don't. Or do what I do, find a friend to see the movie with or go by yourself. I know my wife doesn't like scary or sci-fi movies, so there's no point in subjecting her to it.

The payoff for me is that she can go to see sappy movies with HER friends and I'm saved the hassle.

Luckily, she has gotten into Halloween since we met. Maybe your bf will too.

You may have to accept that its one thing you don't have in common. Doesn't mean you can't have a good relationship. I went last year to see Silent Hill with my (now) fiancee, but having never played the game, was very bored/confused, and vowed never to watch it again. I did buy the dvd for her though.
I would not try to force him into it...find a friend to go with, perhaps a girls night out, and see something you both like with him. My fiancee helps with the haunt construction some, but only when I need a 2nd person, and she mans the gate letting people in. She isnt all that into playing a part. But, she helps in her own way.
Although, when a casket company recent;y advertised scratch and dent models on craigslist...she wouldnt let me get one(we already have one and no room, she said). This worries me about the future of our relationship! *G*

I hate scary movies. They give me nightmares so when dh wants to watch them then he watches them by himself and I do something else. You can't expect to share all the same interests. And no I'm not going to sit and watch a scary movie just to keep him happy.

I'm crazy about halloween, my husband isn't. But he is very supportive of my interests and helps me by things, and excepts the fact that the house will not look the same in October. He's just gotten better year after year.

My husband started off enjoying Halloween but now says he hates it because I am obsessed. I am not obsessed. I don't build things constantly over the year, tho' I'm jealous of those who can and do. But I do bring it up frequently because I see things that are useful at other times of the year or some idea I have I want to flesh out and discuss with someone and I'm on forums r/t it daily. So for that I'm "obsessed" with it.

Well, I wouldn't need to be on the forums as much if I had someone in person to talk to about it! DUH! And you can't wait until September (his permissible date to openly talk about Halloween) to plan the haunt and organize the scenes.

He does help some. He thoroughly enjoyed creating LED lights last year and worked hard on the ship's bow we had coming out of the garage. But I can't help but to talk about it during the rest of the year. The creative juices just flow at any old time. So when he is b!+c#!ng about my obsession or giving me a hard time when I'm working on something I just tune him out. I told him I'm going to do what I need to do whether he likes it or not. And he huffs and he crabs, but oh well too bad.

As for the movies, go see it yourself or with friends who enjoy horror movies too. Don't drag him along if he isn't into them, it will only make both of you miserable. Go with him to a movie you may not be interested in if he will do the same for you, but don't force him and don't go with him to anything you hate.

Believe me, it will make life much easier.

I guess the issue is, I feel like I got the short end of the stick. I do things he likes....I am more opened minded about it and I really like a lot of things. But on the other side, he likes less things and most of them are the things I adore most, like Halloween and roller coasters. Who doesn't like roller coasters, I say?!!

Also, my friends don't like scary movies or amusement parks. I wonder where the kid in these people went! Boo on them!

Anywho...this is not a relationship forum, so I'll get off my soap box now!

ps. I think I did just decide to go see Halloween alone. I'll enjoy it more that way!

I am going to Halloween by myself. There is no one to take, my son would love it if I took him. He is only 8 so I dont think so. No way my wife would go with me, HAH she would say. I am going openening night, opening show, I am thinking of dressing like Michael Meyers, we will see.

To bad we all don' t live near each other and we could go together. =)

I told my wife that loving, obsessing, and enjoying Halloween are all prerequisites to marriage.

She hates scary movies, but doesn't mind helping with Halloween - mostly with the creative ideas part. She knows I love it and it's my favorite time of year. I think it makes her happy to see me happy, so she ends up enjoying herself (or at least sucking it up to make it seem that way).



If everyone's willing to take a trip to sunny (read: rainy) Florida, we'll go see Halloween!