Thread: Dealing with Death and Halloween?

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Originally Posted by Araniella

The following year...and since... I have one 'ghoulie' in the yard dedicated to him. Back then, the kids knew who it represented, and were excited to see it. I used one costume in particular that was 'him', then would do things around it that reminded me of some good times we had had on past Halloweens. Although we've moved I continue to put up 'Bob' and stage him from some far away memory.

That's sweet, Araniella. Sorry about your loss, as well.

along with the others I too am sorry to hear about your dear friend.
my mom passed away on Easter night this past year.

maybe ask yourself what HE would want you to do. i'm sure he would want you to continue as usual to create the zombies and things that the two of you always did together.

just an idea.. but maybe make two zombies working together at creating another zombie to represent the great times and memories the two of you shared in life. maybe add a "beating heart" to the zombie being created.
(i saw somewhere in the HF a tutorial on how to make the heart from great stuff and 2 red led lights)

i finally found the link for the beating heart if your interested.
its not made of "great stuff" afterall sorry lol

hollowscreamer, I know I've said it before, but I believe this is an AWESOME idea! What a way to remember a fellow haunter.

My condolences to everyone for their loss! My heart goes out to all! May this upcoming season bring better thoughts and positive memories you all once shared. I myself would try to create something to remember that person in a tribute to them in some way. Just know we all here support one another and remember that you all have the HF family here too to lift you up on those rainy days got ya down..

thanks GiggleFairy, im glad you like the idea too, havent seen any replies lately from Biggie, we all hope your ok Biggie

I'm so sorry about the loss of your good friend as well Biggie. It sounds like you were very close which is really a gift in this life. To have someone that you have a connection with and to have so many things in common with is really wonderful.

I lost my brother Nov. 3, 1988. The last day I saw him alive was Halloween of that year. He was heading out to a party with a friend and she was putting 'make up' on him. Not really makeup but food coloured vaseline type stuff, it was hideous. My last memory of him alive was him looking back at me with this big silly smile on his face, covered in goop and asking me how he looked. Me in typical snotty 17 year old fashion told him, oooh just great. He then walked out our door and I never saw him alive again. I wrestled with that image for many years of my life.

Halloween still holds the same magic for me as it always did but with that happiness always comes a real sadness that I can feel creep up early September and gradually worsens leading up until Halloween. Perhaps that is one of the reasons that I go all out on my decorations now. Halloween makes for a really wonderful distraction when those sad feelings creep up. The joy I feel when I see kids dressed up TOT and now especially with my own children has been the best thing for me.

He loved the holiday too, I'm sure we could have shared so much had he survived but sadly that wasn't meant to be. But I do know that he is here with me in memory and I'm sure in spirit every Halloween.

The time of year when Halloween comes around is also a time when we are supposed to pay our respects to the dead. This can easily be forgotten amidst our excitement about dressing up and watching horror movies, but I think respecting the dead is an important tradition we should all try to remember, even those of us who haven't lost anyone. And if the loved one you've lost was a fellow Halloween or horror enthusiast, then it's the perfect time to honor their memory. Do your best to enjoy Halloween, and don't feel guilty about it. Your loved ones who have passed wouldn't want your favorite holiday to be ruined, or for you to feel guilt over celebrating it. Have a moment of silence for them and spend the rest of the day having a good time the way they would want you to.

Beautifuly said spiderqueen